"Ours" Baby OTW and SD Negativity
DH and I announced to SD10 last weekend that we are expecting a baby boy in April! SD was surprised when we told her, but she also cried. DH has been talking to her about becoming a big sister. She has told she she "wants a sibling" but I honestly feel like she has told DH that just to please him.
Anyway, my mom called SD today to "congratulate" her on being a big sister.
My mom: "So how are you feeling?"
SD: "He is going to hog all of the attention from me!"
My mom: "Things will be different, but you can help out in different ways! Babies need to hear a lot of stories. You can read to him!"
SD: "No, that's not my job to read to him!"
Then basically the conversation was cut short.
DH and I are both excited. Like I said, I feel like SD hides her true feelings from DH based on things I've noticed and also listening in on her phone convo. Advice needed on where to go from here? Do we stop pushing the "big sister" role and let SD be as involved/uninvolved as she wants? Is this something I should just let DH handle? The past few weeks I have noticed SD will call DH on a Friday and ask to stay at BMs "just one extra day" which then turns into the weekend. I slowly feel like she won't want to come over as much anyways... and definitely not when there is a little baby "hogging" the attention. Advice appreciated from those with "ours" kids!