My brother in law passed away this weekend
I'm so broken, him and my husband were best friends. Now my sister is a widow with 4 children 2 under the age of 10 and there is a teen son and a son who is going to be married in 1 year.
I'm so sad that he's gone, but most of my sorrows are for my sister and her children.
Aside from all of this, while we were at the hospital, we called my daughter, who is in far away at college, who was very best friends with their oldest. Then my husband decides that he forgot to call his daughter (who had only ever seen this family at Christmas, or a few moments here and there). So he called her, and since she was in the area, she came to the hospital for about 15min, she tried to SQUEEZE out tears, there may have been 1 tear. Then decided to call my daughter who's devastated, who's crying so hard, having to wait until morning before she can drive down, because she's so hysterical that she can hardly see. She goes on about how she doesn't think she's phased by death, that everyone was sooooo glad that she came to the hospital. (Nobody cared, it wasn't about her, it was about my sister and her family, that's all anyone was worried about). But the last thing my daughter wanted to hear was how sd tried to make this death somehow about herself.
I understand why my husband felt the need to tell her, when she is not told about things in our family, she tries to tell DH that it's his fault that she doesn't feel like family... but i think that she's literally a sociopath and has no real feelings.