It burns my a$$...
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It burns my ass watching my husband busy his butt working 7 days a week to pay BM the CS she gets and she lives like a princess. Lives rent free pays no utilities and JUST started working since child was born. She will be 8 in December. I have no problem AT ALL with him paying CS just need to vent how badly it pusses me off these bm's. abusing shit. Don't live off CS!!!! It's to go towards child!
Amen!
Amen!
and she gets it not only tax
and she gets it not only tax free, she gets HUGE financial rewards for having a child that come out of your dh's (and all us workers) paychecks. where is the incentive for these women to have to provide for their own children, too? hell, to provide for THEMSELVES?
Does the child look like she
Does the child look like she is suffering, malnourished, neglected, etc.? If she doesn't, that is what matters. If this child looks like she's any of those things, take pictures and notify CPS.
If BM is working, it is time to get CS re-adjusted. You said you live in CT on your bio. Here are some links that may help you: https://ct.smartchildsupport.com/NonCustodialParent.aspx
http://www.ct.gov/dss/lib/dss/childsupport/guidetocsservices.pdf
http://www.jud.ct.gov/childsupport/faq_eng.htm#9.
Re-adjusting CS: http://www.jud.ct.gov/childsupport/Internet_R_and_A_Request.pdf
Filing a modification on your own: http://www.jud.ct.gov/forms/grouped/family/modification.htm
we do live in Ct but bm and
we do live in Ct but bm and sd live in RI. So it went through the RI court system
Then this site will have many
Then this site will have many links that can help you: http://www.cse.ri.gov/ncpservices/index.php
Seriously, if she is working, it is time to get it re-adjusted. I think we can both agree on that.
she suddenly went part time
she suddenly went part time and the judge at the CS adjustment said my DH should make more money to pay BM more because she only works part time
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WTH?! That is terrible! And VERY unfair.
I get it. It is frustrating.
I get it. It is frustrating. BUUUUT...think of it this way...your DH could have custody! I would much rather pay than have custody.
This kind of kills me. My exH
This kind of kills me. My exH could be saying the same things. My husband just bought a very beautiful home for me, my bios and ss. This had nothing to do with my income, I am not even on the loan. But from the outside looking in I live in a large, gorgeous home.
I pay the utilities and food for the household, and believe me 2 growing boys and a hard working husband means very large grocery bills. But the home we live in really has nothing to do with me being able to pay for it.
100% of the child support I receive goes to my kids. About 80% of it goes to child care alone!
Everyone harping on CS today is just getting irritating. The custodial parent gets it. The kids have a roof over their heads, food on the table and clothes on their backs. Leave it alone. If you think your DH is paying too much- go back to court and have it adjusted if the judge deems it to be. Otherwise, let it go.
I totally agree! and TRUST me
I totally agree! and TRUST me i thank my lucky stars we dont have her FT and its not because the financial aspect of it. I just cant stand her.
"I would much rather pay than
"I would much rather pay than have custody."
In my case if guilty daddy had custody, then he would:
1. not parent the way he usually doesn't parent for fear of "losing skids back to BM" (TM)
2. would not accept CS from BM the way she does from him, i.e. she makes MORE than he does, almost 10K more a year yet he pays $1000 a month making 35K a year.
So definitely would not rather have custody since both parents are crappy parents.
I had a hard time with seeing
I had a hard time with seeing what an easy life BM had compared to our struggle with TWO adults working FT - versus her non-working ass.
I had to change my own thoughts on the matter. I was with DH. We were happy. She was a miserable hag.
She (FINALLY) got knocked up again and got this poor sap to marry her. So now I think, we are going to be able to travel and SHE is going to be stuck at home taking care of her youngest!
It's a small comfort but I wouldn't trade my life for BM's ever. I have a work ethic and it would drive me insane to be at home all day every day.