Ipod,kik and fb

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My ss's mom gave him an Ipod for Christmas. He is 13 which is fine but now he has kik and a fb page.I have no problem with that as long as someone monitors it. They don't think they should. well I checked it and he is on there with his little girl friend and both of them is using the f word and talking about kiss. but what bothers me most is she was talking about cutting herself and told him not to tell and he confessed to hitting his chest and stomach till he brusied himself over being angry at sd. Now should I say something to his parents or stay out of it. Tell will probably get mad at me. Advise please! Thanks

I would casually mention it

I would casually mention it to your DH. As in, "Oh, SS popped up on FB as someone I might know. Did you know he had a FB account? I wonder what he posts on it...?"

Then leave it alone.

Unless you know for a fact that he is actually doing this stuff. He might be just embellishing to impress his little GF.

EXACTLY what happened at our

EXACTLY what happened at our house. I just stay out of it. He can deal with the messes I know she is making.

Are you engaged, or

Are you engaged, or disengaged?

If you are disengaged, like me, just repeat: Not my monkeys, not my circus.

Thanks for the comments. I

Thanks for the comments. I think the best thing is to stay out of it.

I would at least tell him and

I would at least tell him and then let him handle. If something happens with the kid, you are covered. I warned DH of the problems online with SD when she was 13 and he tried to tell BM and she thought it was fine.

Now my kids have a rule that I have their password and we are friends. No issue and my kids are 16 and 20. SS16 hates social media and refuses to have the accts.

I kinda agree but see my

I kinda agree but see my comment below. I think you take it a little further because he has mentioned harming himself. If they continue to do nothing about you have to speak with a police officer or a school councselor. You can't have that happen on your watch...

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Just having the page alone, I would agree with Morgan "Not my monkey, not my circus..." (I'm stealing that, by the way...lol) but this thing got dangerous when he mentioned cutting and bruising himself. My DW is a mental health professional and that stuff is serious even at such a young age. You gotta blow that up TODAY!!! This goes beyond any of the engaged/disengaged stuff we talk about casually on here, someones life could be at risk. This is not an overreaction, this is serious.

Agreed. I was in the mental

Agreed. I was in the mental health field for a while. Self harm can morph into deeper levels of self harm for release. It needs to be taken seriously.

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