SD30 Why are you telling me THIS????
My SD 30 NEVER calls me, unless her dad is away on business and she cant get in touch with him. She called me twice in the past 3 days ( I dont know why I answered the phone)! But, when she does call she does all the talking!
These 2 phone calls were just STRANGE!
Please tell me if this is NORMAL???
She met a guy 2 years ago and has been dating for a few weeks!
She said she cant stop thinking of him because....
"HE'S JUST LIKE HER DAD!
He talks like her dad, he wears his glasses like her dad, he eats like her dad, he laughs like her dad, he does the same gestures like her dad, he likes the same movies like her dad....
I thought back then how strange this was! Wanting to tell her but didnt " does he shit like your dad"?
Fast forward to yesterday..
She calls to tell me they got in their first argument.
and lo and behold this is what she said
" Omg! We got in our first argument, but I let him think he was right, because I couldn't get over the fact that he Argues like my dad!! He has the same temper, and body movements when hes mad!!! JUST LIKE MY DAD"!!!
Please anyone out there, tell me you find this odd?
What in the world does this mean??
Im stumped!
Mini-wife syndrome; electra
Mini-wife syndrome; electra complex carried on way past her prime!
Obviously she has some weird
Obviously she has some weird daddy complex that a lot of the mini wives do. Perhaps she's calling to try to rub it in your face, I dunno. If a man acted just like my dad, I don't think we'd be dating anymore. Ew ew ew
^^ this ^^ Sounds like she
But theres NOTHING about this
But theres NOTHING about this guy that resembles her dad in anyway!!!
My post didnt explain that she's been living with him for 2 years now!!
so does this mean she's sleeping with her dad???
Its really creepy to me.
What do you mean "met him two
What do you mean "met him two years ago….date him a few weeks….living with him for 2 years now"???
^yep^
^yep^
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Well... Im one of those
Well... Im one of those people that thinks about what I SHOULD have said afterwards!!
lol.. But, at first I did think " oh well, most of us will be attracted to a guy if theres tiny reminders of our dad in there somewhere?? I understand that.
BUT.. not like this!!!
Im usually always in shock when talking with her, so I cant think of what I really want to say until later!! But im sure I will next time, if there is a next time?
I wonder what SD30 says to
I wonder what SD30 says to her new beau about her daddy? Anyone want to guess…...
Not the Brady bunch" Sorry it
Not the Brady bunch"
Sorry it was confusing. I left out a few words.
She met him a few years ago. But moved in together just recently! !
sorry about the confusion!!!!! Lol.
After reading your blog post,
After reading your blog post, it goes much deeper. Run on: Since you are the fourth wife, and she is a daughter from BM1 and after what happened to her brother, and since she fought to live with dad... nothing that would come out of her mouth for the rest of her life would surprise me.
She's never been married, and
She's never been married, and hes 8 years younger than her!
I love my dad too ( rest in peace)
But, I can understand comparing a few things to my dad. I hope daughters that have been brought up by strong , wonderful fathers have a better chance of finding wonderful partners!!
But, I never had these thoughts? Maybe same strengths or problem solving , not to this extent tho?
Not the brady bunch.. you are
Not the brady bunch..
you are right...
does it help she lives 2 states away?
Or is my life doomed?
Im sure this attitude of hers comes in pieces, and now its subsided.. This behavior will most likely run its course for the rest of my life.
Is this nonsense tolerable?
Or, a deal breaker, knowing it will never end?
As long as she never moves in
As long as she never moves in with you, it sounds relatively mild.
^^^THIS^^^
^^^THIS^^^
Since she rarely calls, its
Since she rarely calls, its an impulse to answer the phone. Anytime one of my kids call I race to answer, even tho she's been a terror, I cant help it, because it could be some emergency or ??. A habit im sure most mothers have! Im not her mother of course, but its hard NOT to answer!
Theres a part of me that finds comfort in questioning her actions, but theres also a part of me that feels really bad for her, even after all the abuse.
I cant hate anybody, especially when I know theres some deep seeded issues, and cant throw mythoughts back in her face? Usually my mouth just drops every tone she opens hers!
catmom2 I know... Thats the
catmom2
I know... Thats the FIRST thing I thought of..
But could not say!!! Lol...lol..
Thanks you guys!!! You
Thanks you guys!!!
You validated my thoughts on this!
Tell her you're anxious to
Tell her you're anxious to meet him as her father is getting to be an old fuddy duddy.
HAHAHAHAHA!! Thats a good one
HAHAHAHAHA!!
Thats a good one !!!!
Anyname! Hahaha I admit our
Anyname! Hahaha
I admit our significant others do process alot of the same traits too!
my husbands personality is fun, anything goes, hello to everyone and open door to friends and family, and has been great with my kids!
I guess they are alot alike!
But like you, I have never compared them in the way SD does! Ever!
kind of like an "emotional incest" which is what I DONT want to think this is!!! Yuck!
I needed to know my feelings were validated!
Thank you. And "im very sorry" if you know what I mean??? Hahahaha!
I haven't read your
I haven't read your blogs...BUT, maybe she's looking for validation from someone, anyone, about her new love interest...who better to confirm that she's making a good choice than the person who's married to a man with the same qualities? Perhaps she was trying to bond with you?
Or, she could just be another lunatic mini-wife.
At first I wanted to believe
At first I wanted to believe thats what it was?
But, each time she talked about him and I would say " oh really, thats great, or " he sounds so nice". Or anything for that matter , she'd interrupt me and just keep going! She'd even say " oh, and he looks over his glasses when I ask him a question, just like my dad does" and then she'd end the sentence with "do you know what I mean"? And I'd start to answer, but she'd talk right over me? Its was almost a shove it in your face conversation from only her!
Although, I failed to mention this but maybe should have, that when her dad isnt around, and she would find me looking for him, or after asking her, if she knew where he was?
This is what she'd say to me since I've known her...
"JUST ASK ME THE QUESTION, I CAN GIVE YOU THE SAME ANSWER MY DAD WOULD"! WE ARE SO MUCH ALIKE, WE FINISH EACH OTHERS SENTENCES"!!!!
Nothing miss congeniality sais, surprises me anymore!
EWWWWWWWWW!! Remember that
EWWWWWWWWW!! Remember that sayin'.. "be careful what you wish for..".. looks like SD's wishes have come true. She finally got to sleep with her "daddy" :sick: