Is It Wrong???
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For me to want to take my 3 kids to see my family in another state (8hr drive) for 2 days but yet will be back in time before thanksgiving to spend with wife and her family? Two of my children I see one every 2 weeks so it would be nice to get that alone time with them. My wife does not want to go on the trip because she is difficult and very high maintenance but wants me to bring her 3 kids with me. Ages 10, 7 and 5. Two of which have ADD, ADHD so bad its unreal. Well, the 2 that have ADD have no father and are with us 100% time so quite frankly I just want it to be my 3 kids for 2 motherfucking days...... Is that to much to ask????
Your wife doesn't want to go
Your wife doesn't want to go but expects you to take her 3 kids? Um, NO.
My wife does not want to go
My wife does not want to go on the trip because she is difficult and very high maintenance
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Sounds like a winner. lol
Let me get this straight...she wants you to take ALL of her kids while she stays home...? Ummmm. Nope. I am actually floored she would ask that. She wants a vacation and is trying to make it happen by sending her kids with you.
Surely you are NOT going to do this are you?!
That is a ridiculous idea of
That is a ridiculous idea of hers, she actually wants or insists that you take her 3 kids with you? This is where you need to put your foot down & tell her NO WAY IN H***!!! Be honest that you need the alone time & look forward to your trip cause she may likely make you pay once you return back home. I know somebody who is going through what you are so he asks for my help a lot. Feel free to private me if you like to chat further. I'm sure that there are many more issues that you are dealing with & this is a small one compared to...?
She is unreasonable!! I would
She is unreasonable!! I would never ask my DH to take my DD with him anywhere and she is a good kid!! I would say no and I wouldn't be nice about it either!!
At this point I have
At this point I have cancelled the trip and nobody is going basically because I dont want to take her 3 kids with us and to avoid a fight. However I am feeling pretty crappy about that because my mother really wants us to come. Oh and I lied to my mother about why we are not going because she would be floored as well.
By you not going, do you know
By you not going, do you know what message that gives her? I'm afraid that by you not going, it will make other issues worse for you later on speaking. Not to mention, you never know how much time you will have with your parents. With my first husband, I blew off my family/events. Big mistake for I did not know that my brother was going to die & he was only 32 years old. If you told your mom the truth & you know she would wig, its cause your wife is being out of line here with you. I really do feel for you don't get me wrong but I think that you should go & take only your kids this time.
At this point I have
At this point I have cancelled the trip and nobody is going basically because I dont want to take her 3 kids with us and to avoid a fight. However I am feeling pretty crappy about that because my mother really wants us to come. Oh and I lied to my mother about why we are not going because she would be floored as well.
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Go back and read the above with fresh eyes. Read this as a MAN. What would you think of a MAN that wrote this? Not to be rude...but it is time to "man up" for lack of a better way to say it. Your wife is leading you around by the...nose.
Willow, dogman, good advice.
Willow, dogman, good advice. I cannot take her anymore. The most beautiful woman i have ever been with but the meanest bitch mammal I have ever been around in all my years on this planet earth. Im so over her and her kids they are driving me to the point of insanity.
Oh HELL no! Take your kids
Oh HELL no! Take your kids and go see your mother, WITHOUT guilt and most certainly WITHOUT your skids. PERIOD.
exbf has full custody of
exbf has full custody of exsd14. i took her on a family trip years ago, without him as he had to work, and i vowed never to do it again. she was horrible! it took away time i needed with my family because exsd was so bad!
fuck ur wife or gf or whatever she is...u go with ur kids. not hers.
I am considering a divorce,
I am considering a divorce, have been for months.
do her kids call you dad?
do her kids call you dad? just wondering because you say 2 have no father. where is he?
Well here we have another
Well here we have another typical scenario:
BioMom using her spouse (the StepDad) to care for, raise & generally tote around HER children for her.
Surprising.
Why are you still with her?
My wife does indeed try and
My wife does indeed try and control my every move, at first it was very bad it has gotten a bit better since I more or less put my foot down. Two of her three children have no father. Not around and they couldnt pick him out of lineup. Not their fault it their mothers for bad decisions in life. So because of that it has put more stress on me.
You need to start demanding
You need to start demanding some respect from this woman. Starting now. Go in the trip with just your kids! Think of how many people will have to suffer just for her if you stay home....BULLSHIT. not to mention the resentment you will have towards her. Maybe TELL HER YOU ARE GOING. DON'T ASK. say these are my relatives and me and my children are going on a trip. You and your kids have a nice thanksgiving here. That's how its going to be this year. END OF STORY.
I have a feeling this relationship is over anyways. You have been getting pushed around a wee bit too long my friend...
It's not wrong at all, you
It's not wrong at all, you should be allowed time with your family and bio children within reason. You gave up becasue you were afraid of an argument, IMHO never do that again, learn to control her anger and have the discussions regardless if she will get angry or not. Your family and children are losing out and if there is no reason stopping her looking after her bio children and she does not want to go there should be no issue as she is not your boss you are still an adult and can freely make your own decisions.
So I just text her this, this
So I just text her this, this morning "Very likely I am going to Texas Thursday evening or Friday morning"
her response - "prepare yourself"
she is f-ing crazy
This is borderline abuse. How
This is borderline abuse. How can you live like this? In fear of what she may do while while you are gone...like destroy your belongings while you are away? Save the text for sure. And don't let her freighten you out of going.
Take your kids and go visit
Take your kids and go visit your family. I hope you have fun!
When you get back get your stuff in order and plan your exit from this marriage.
Good luck.
Take your kids and go visit
Take your kids and go visit your family. I hope you have fun!
When you get back get your stuff in order and plan your exit from this marriage.
Good luck.
It just reinforces that both
It just reinforces that both man and woman will never accept and treat other children as a equal to their own.