SCARED TO DEATH
As I wrote in an earlier post my DH's 1st ex-wife is taking us back to court for an increase in child support for the 13 year old and maintenance and half the college expenses for the 18 year old. Right now he is paying $800 a month. He is paying another $800 in child support per month for a child by his second marriage. Well now my husband's neurologist has put him on full disability. Because of his disease (myasthenia gravis) he simply can no longer do his job and because of the effects of his disease the neurologist doesn't feel he can work at all. He has been battling this disease for almost four years and has kept on working even though there were times he had to take a taxi to work because he was so weak he was incapable of driving. So now his income is going to be cut to $3700 a month. By the time we pay taxes and the child support and for medical insurance (we will have to pay $190 per month to the state for insurance since he is on disability) he will have about $700 per month left. On top of that since he has to pay for half of all the kids medical expenses besides paying for their insurance and with his medical expenses (his prescriptions run about $200 per month just in co-pays and his plasmapherisis procedure that is done every three months adds another $100 per month to that) we average right at $500 per month in medical expenses. That will leave him about $200-$300 a month. We have his 23 year old son living with us (rent free) while he works and goes to college and my 19 year old daughter who works and goes to college. I make a whole $10.00 per hour. I just have no idea how we are ever going to make it. Plus we are racking up attorney's fees because she is taking us back to court wanting more money. I am just at a loss and my heart breaks for my husband who tries so hard to have a somewhat normal life while battling this devastating disease. And to make matters worse, stress makes myasthenia symptoms worse and of course this whole situation is nothing but stress. I am just so afraid of what is going to happen to us, how we are ever going to make it and most of all what is going to happen to him. Do judges ever consider special circumstances like this? My husband will be unemployed through no fault of his own. Our medical bills are unreal. It is not that we don't want to pay any child support it is just that we need it set so that we have enough to live on and pay for his medicine and treatments. Once his disability starts (there is a 30 day waiting period where he will have no income at all) his ex-wives will be making more then he does. Actually the first ex-wife who is remarried will have an income more then double of ours when you consider her husbands income. Will a judge consider any of this? We live in Illinois if that makes a difference.