My normal SD15 had a friend over for the weekend, so we sent SS17 to his moms house so they could have privacy and not have him trying to be in the way. I just got a call from DH saying he is at moms house with her geratric boyfriend telling them I beat him, tell him I hate him, make him stay in his room 24/7 and that I have kept him grounded for 2 years. . So she calls yellling at DH because I am abusing him. My DH went off on her saying...you really believe this BS? He told her..if you remember correctly most of the time when you have him I have to come get him because you can't handle his unruley behavior. Now for the truth. I moved in with DH almost 2 years ago and we have custody of both children. My SS17 is a terror. He is bipolar and oppositional defiant. Since being in the house there has not been one 6 weeks where he has passed all of his subjects, so yes this keeps him grounded. He has stolen my ipod and took disgusting pics of himself with it, stole my cell phone and done the same thing, oh and a computer. He has dug a whole under the foundation of the house because he was bored. He has been caught smoking pot...he lies about everything. If given a chore like take out the trash, he takes it out the disappears for like an hour. He took his brand new bike and tore it about to see what it looked like. His has made a bomb threat at school and gotten into two fights. I have never once told him I hate him, or that I don't love him. In fact most of the time I am yelling or lecturing him I tell him that I get so mad because he hurts my feelings and because he is smarter then the things he does. When he complains about being grounded I say..well you choose the behavior you choose the consqeunce. He hates going to bed at 8pm, but in my opinion if you are faling school and not bringing home school books then go to bed. I don't like or love him, and maybe it comes across but can you blame me. My DH is always on my side, and the only reason stupid mom is complaining is because she is wanting her 70year old sugar daddy to think she is great. My step daughter is caught in the middle because she loves her brother but is tired of the turmoil. She told DH she was coming to get his clothes..I called and said just try it..I work two jobs and this house is in my name and I have bought everything..and I mean everything in his room. His clothes, bed, shoes, everything belongs to me and if she thinks she has the balls to come to my house just try it and see how that works for ya. AHHHHHHHHHH