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BettyRay's picture

This month has been awful.

DH was fired from his job of 15 years the Thursday after Thanksgiving. He was interviewing the last two weeks and started a new job this week. It's awesome how well he bounced back. I don't think I could have done it. This has really shaken me up, my stress level has been through the roof but I've been keeping it in, just want to support DH right now.

Found out last night SS17 has been vaping. SS17 used his debit card to buy supplies from a vape shop. The card is link to BM's account and she was notified of the purchase. BM grounded him, no hanging out with friends, of course his with us next week, so we get to enforce it. Oh the joy! N.O.T. 

Don't get me wrong I am pissed about it. SS17 lied, not only to BM but to DH and me. I found the e-cig in his pocket when I was doing laundry and confronted SS17 about it. Asked him point blank if he was vaping and he said no. SS17 said that it was a high speed charger for his cell phone, BS! I knew he was lying and told DH. But as usual DH sided with the Skid. I'm done nagging DH about Skid stuff so I dropped it.

Well when SS17 gets to our house Friday night we are having a long talk with him. We are grounding him too. But we will be taking his car away, as driving is a privilege and liers don't deserve the privilege. He will also be taking a drug test, as his grades have tanked and DH and I are both concerned the vaping has lead to smoking weed.

SS21 barely passed this trimester and has been trying to talk DH into buying him a full size bed so his GF can stay over night and they can sleep comfortably. No can do, SS21, DH and I are both trying to get him out of the house, that is not going to happen.

When DH told SS21 he was fired SS21 acted like it was not a big deal and was oblivious to the stress we were under. Not that I expected anything else from him, just depressing.

Merry Freakin Christmas!  

~BettyRay

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I love dogs's picture

You do SS17's laundry?? In my case, I'm not worrying about gifts for SD this year. If DH wants to, he can figure it out.

BettyRay's picture

Yes, as long as the clothes are on the sort bins I will do it. The Skids already wrecked one washer. We just bought him ski boots and skis for Christmas, the store is clothing and all sales were final. Sad

~BettyRay

amyburemt's picture

buying it? i know a lot of states changed the age to buy. If theyre selling to a minor and they aren't supposed to I would talk to them as well. these stores need to be held accountable for stuff like that also. 

BettyRay's picture

I'm sure they didn't card him he is tall and looks older than 17. BM is on it, she went to the shop and called them on it. He won't be able to buy from there anymore. But there are a lot of vape shops around our city so am sure he could find another.

~BettyRay

BettyRay's picture

I hate the lying. DH is always so passive about it. Alwys looking for the silver lining.

~BettyRay

susanm's picture

High speed charger?  OK buddy.  Plug it in.  We'll wait.  We have all night to stand here.

BettyRay's picture

That is what I wanted to do but DH wasn't onboard.

~BettyRay

susanm's picture

We had the same thing a few years ago when OSD had a bottle of vodka in her room.  She swore that she just liked the bottle and it was only water.  DH claimed he believed her and trusted her completely.  He had a DUI as a teenager and became a hardcore AA member who has not had a drop of alcohol in over 30 years.  I told him if he really truly believed her then he would take a sip from the bottle.    He declined.

hereiam's picture

I'm sorry, I cannot get over SS21 wanting his dad to buy him a full size bed so that his GF can sleep over. I would not be able to stop myself from laughing in his face. I mean, really, the nerve.

I'm glad your DH started a new job, that is awesome (and pretty quick). I hope that relieves some of your stress.

Hey, if you want to skip Christmas, skip it.

BettyRay's picture

Both our Moms are coming for Christmas day. I just got the tree up and haven't put ornaments on it yet.

It was really hard not to laugh while SS21 was lamenting that it's so uncomfortable sleeping at GF's parents house because of her twin bed, and that BM's was just as bad because of his twin bed there. He has never had GF spend the night at our house. I think we get up too early and have too many rules. Smile

~BettyRay

hereiam's picture

If SS and the GF want to spend the night together, they can get their own place or get a hotel room. No way would I be entertaining that bull at my house. She would be moving right in!

BettyRay's picture

Which is why SS21 knows better than to bring her home to our house for the night. 

~BettyRay

Aniki's picture

If SS21 wants to boink his gf, he can do it on a bed under his own roof. What nerve.

What happened to the vape charger? I would have made sure it went out with the trash.

BettyRay's picture

She took all the vaping stuff from SS17. But let's be real he probably has another one stashed somewhere.

~BettyRay

BettyRay's picture

I had suspected weed since his grades have tanked. We were going to make him take a drug test when he gets to our house on Friday.

~BettyRay

somethingwicked's picture

Let  the moms come.Tell MIL what her pwecious GS are up to.

You can still enjoy their visit.

Her are some  stocking stuffer suggestions:  a box of tissues, hand lube and old playboy or hustler mags for SS21.And a solid timeline to launch.

SS17 gets grounded until he's 18 .Then if he still insists as an "adult" his aspiration to screw up his health out the door he goes.

BettyRay's picture

SS21 is supposed to graduate in May, if he doesn't have a place by the day after graduation he will be paying rent $800 a month. DH is on board with this, and SS21 knows the deal.

Here's the kicker, SS17 has asthma. Ever since DH and I got together BM has beat us over the head about our dogs and my smoking (quit 5 years ago) causing his attacks. When in reality I can't stand dog hair so I vacuum and sweep everyday, don't let the dogs in the bedrooms and never smoked around the Skids or in my house or car. Always went outside behind the garage to smoke i.e. get a break from the Skids.

~BettyRay