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BM making the kids turn on me?

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Submitted by jsalinas000 on Mon, 12/12/2011 - 6:36pm

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Blended Family Issues

thought came to mind tonight....

Everytime my Bf's boys come back from a weekend with their Mom, they are the worst....

I'm pretty sure she is in their ear, talking mess -- and when they see me and my kids the animosoty and anger and pure meanness oozes out of them

I can't stop her from being so manipulative...has anyone dealt with this? If so, any suggestions?

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Submitted by farmers wife on Mon, 12/12/2011 - 7:31pm

Great advice MazzyStar!
I don't know if BM ever talked about me like that (probably did tho) but she sure did about DH from the moment she left him.

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Submitted by farmers wife on Mon, 12/12/2011 - 8:24pm

no, the daughter has continued it (she's 31 now). her mother is perfect & dad "never loved me" etc. . . as proven in him not paying her bills! It's only love if you give her what she wants. Sad

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Submitted by farmers wife on Mon, 12/12/2011 - 8:37pm

yes, and that is what she is teaching her kids too.... we worry about them. (we only see them maybe once or twice a year because we won't give them money.)Thanks Mazzy!

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Submitted by giveitago on Mon, 12/12/2011 - 8:08pm

That's exactly what we did here, Mazzy. It's NOT easy, but I have seen dividends already.

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Submitted by Auteur on Tue, 12/13/2011 - 7:35am

Good advice and if they DON'T come to their senses when older and continue to beer bong the PAS koolaid, then you have a clean conscience in that you've done the right thing.

And what good is a relationship if it's based on money and material things? I see most of these guilty biodads "child chasing" their now adult children by continuing to "buy their love."

When daddykins comes to HIS senses and sees he is only wanted for his wallet, then suddenly the "relationship" evaporates in a giant "POOF!"