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It's bad enough dh goes and gets kids everyday while bm works during the day and returns them at 5 pm-in addition to his days of having kids, they have 50/50 custody. Today I find out he is taking them back at 3 because she gets done at 3. wtf...you know how nice that would have been to have my kids picked up in am and returned to me when I got done with work? How do I make this stop with out seeming like Im nagging. Or maybe it shouldnt be bothering me, is this normal?
I agree that's a bit much all
I agree that's a bit much all for the sake of getting along. My DH used to do all the transporting because of course he felt guilty. I once brought it up asking how come our gas tank always paid the price for the kids? Gas is pricey these days. I asked if maybe she couldn't compromise a bit and do one way or the other. but even that was on his scheduled time. Sounds to me like she has a pretty good setup. I would have appreciated it when my kids where young. My ex never helped even before he was my ex!
I deal with this now, my DH
I deal with this now, my DH does all kinds of crazy running around for her. It used to drive me nuts until I realized that he doesn't ask me to do it. He does it before I get out of work, so what bother's me so much?? it was control. I didn't want him to..that's the only reason. I am getting better and learning to let it go. As long as I am not expected to be her personal bus service for SK..let DH do it since he wants to. He gets to visit with his DD too. I was the one being selfish, demanding and a bi*&h about it. Let him spend that extra time with his kids, it's not like he's spending that time with BM, it's with the kid(s).
.. ..believe me Babygirl30
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..believe me Babygirl30 it took some work to come to that realization..lol..but I am actually happier too, I am not angry and annoyed all the time about it either. There are plenty of bigger issues to tackle other than that. I am learning to pick and choose my battles so to speak, and I was making that one up all by myself just by being spiteful to BM, it had nothing to do with DH and SK..I just didn't want him to help her, and that was all my own "baggage". Didn't really like what I saw in the mirror so to speak, so decided to change it. I decided that as long as it didn't directly impact me or my time with DH, or expect me to do it who was I to try to dictate his free time that he could spend with DD.
One of my small steps forward in this crazy life