How do you make your husband discipline his children?
How do you make your husband discipline his children? I have a wonderful nice husband who will sort of discipline 2 of his children but his middle daughter who is 16 now can do whatever she wants in our home. I have been with him for 8 years now and nothing changes. All of his children used to live with us but the stress of the middle child was too much for everyone to stand so she now lives with her mother. The children used to fight really really badly because of my husband's blantant favoritism of his middle daughter. My rules in the house are simple. No eating in the living room, leave the thermostats alone, no leaning back on the kitchen chairs, no throwing things in the house. She does these things several times every day she is in our home. I feel like she knows she is in control of our household, and that she throws it in my face that daddy will never back me up and do anything to her. We pay child support for her, no one pays us anything for the son that lives here. The oldest is now out on her own. I am the one who pays for the medical insurance on all his children. But if the bm and stepdad don't have enough money to pay for something for her, daddy will somehow come through for her no matter what. I have always felt that I am in direct competition with my stepdaughter for my husbands loyalty, affection etc. She wins no matter what. I love my husband, he is a wonderful man but he has created a monster. If he would have only done something with her in the beginning this would not be a continual issue in our marriage. I get angry with his daughter for disrespecting me and take it out on him because he doesn't care enough about me to change her behavior. His children have never had consequences for their actions. I beg and plead that I want to be elsewhere when she is here because I don't like dealing with this all the time. He gets so angry when I suggest this -- I think he really doesn't want to spend time alone with his children either. When his children are here he is outside doing his thing and I am stuck in the house dealing with her disrespect. Any suggestions you can give me? Please help!