Shocked...But Not Surprised
SD18 finally paid a visit with DH and I last weekend. First time we've seen her since December - she has a new boyfriend who lives in the city (she lives 45 min outside of the city with BM) - and needed a ride home. Being that DH hadn't seen her in months, complied but did make it known he isn't her mode of transport.
The visit went well. She graduated her program at school (thankfully) and is ecstatic about not having to go to school anymore. And she actually got a call for a job at a restaurant and started this week. Those are good news items from the visit. I'm sure BM is none too pleased with SD getting a job - but the bright side for BM is that she can now charge SD rent and make money off of her since we still have not heard back from FRO - therefore still no money from DH (the update to that is for another post).
DH and I are aware that SD is habitual pot smoker - she depends on it - has actually told us that she "needs" it, can't go a day without it. She has mentioned many times that BM calls her an addict. While visiting she said she needed to go for a walk - which is code for she needs to go smoke some weed. DH asked her who buys her weed since a) she's under age to purchase from dispensaries, and b) she doesn't have a job and no money.
SD reluctantly admitted that BM purchases her weed and gives her a daily amount. Hold on a minute...so BM buys the drugs, and controls how much she gets each day...in other words, BM is essentially SD's dealer...and then calls SD an addict???
Will the disfunction ever end with this woman? I'm not surprised with the control part - as a narcassist - she has to control SD in every way. Even with SD's new boyfriend, BM insisted that SD give her the boyfriend's mom's phone number. To which SD gave in to. So the control part does not surprise me at all.
What is rather shocking, but it really shouldn't be at this stage, is that she buys her underage daughter drugs (need to be 19 to buy it legally here). After her son, SS22, died of an overdose. SD has many of SS's behaviours - but at least she finally finished school and has worked and is now working. And especially how she speaks about depending on weed...I could swear it's SS talking to us.
Time to drop a dime on SD and BM re SD's MIP and BM's dealing.
I would.
Let BM deal with a contributing to the delinquency of a minor case and SD can watch mommy get roasted in court.
My SS took a trip to SpermLand to put his moron Spermidiot against a wall by his throat over spermidiot spawn #3 being arrested trying to live up to the Spermidiot's ganbanger wannabe fantasies when #3 was a minor.
Sadly, #3 is now a convicted felon inmate and has delivered on the Spermidiot's unaccomplished goals of gangbangar glory.
What is rather shocking, but
This is beyond sick. Reminds me of some form of Munchausen syndrome.
@MorningMia - OMG I've been
@MorningMia - OMG I've been saying that for years! Ever since I came into the picture and SD was 8 years old! BM would send her to us with a ziplock bag full of remedies that she insisted SD had to take: she always claimed that SD was allergic to dairy and sugar (but never had any allergy tests) and that if she ate anything with the either in it, it would back SD up. Therefore SD had to take a daily dose of: restorolax, charcoal pills. She also wanted us to give her melatonin each night which I refused to give her at that age. And she always slept fine at our house. DH and I tried out some dairy (cheese) and treats with sugar and she seemed to be fine afterwards. I refused to give her restorolax and charcoal pills - I never understood the reasoning for that. And never mind that BM was potentially causing SD to be dependent on going to the bathroom with this stuff. When SD got into her early teens, BM switch her over to actual laxative pills. SD would come over and say that her mom told her to take two a day. I asked why and SD couldn't tell me. I told her that she shouldn't be taking those every day otherwise your body won't be able to go without them. SD stopped taking them after that and refused to. She never had issues with her bowels! Then when SD started rebelling against BM, BM brought her to a doctor and told her that SD has ADHD and needed medication. The doctor complied without doing an assessment or sending her for one. BM also told the doctor that SD suffered from high anxiety and boom! Anti anxiety meds were given as well. BM was doing exactly what she did with SS. It goes on and on.
What is sad...is that BM is in SS's ex's ear about SS's daughter (5 yrs) - and has convinced SS's ex that our grand daughter is just like her father and needs ADHD medication to calm her down. The kid is 5 for crying out loud! Has no outlets, does not see other kids except when she is at school, got uprooted from her home two years ago when her mother decided to move to another city...And now, our granddaughter is on ADHD medication. The cycle continues.
What a nightmare. I think
What a nightmare. I think this kind of insanity isn't all that uncommon, unfortunately.