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Submitted by jogle1020 on Sat, 05/25/2019 - 9:19am

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Does anyone have any advice on the process of starting a Parallel Parenting Agreement? Is this something that can be notorized and sent to court or do you need a court appointment to make it legal? Does one parent write the agreement and have the other parent modify, or do you both write agreements? 

Any and all comments, suggestions, advice would be greatly appreciated! 

Thanks!

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Submitted by Notup4it on Sat, 05/25/2019 - 9:45am

Is there such a thing?! I always thought that parallel parenting was pretty much you do your thing and I’ll do mine because they can’t agree upon things? 

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Submitted by jogle1020 on Sat, 05/25/2019 - 10:12am

I was under the impression that it is/can be a legal agreement. With my current situation, it would have to be legal or the other parent will not take it serious and will violate the agreement. 

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Submitted by Harry on Sat, 05/25/2019 - 12:44pm

How the visiting works, week at BM week art BF,  EWE, EOWE, When summer vacation starts, Christmas vacation, Easter, winter,  Mother’s Day, Father’s Day ect.  When summer vacations dates has to ge given.  Ect.  Always good to have in writing for future reference.  

But how to parallel parenting, will never work.  Unless both parent does, fairly.  If you have EOWE and see SK four days a month.  You have your weekend planned. Trip to somewhere, a Fair, then other parent grounds SK for your weekend.  What do you do. ?  Not have fun for some thing done to other parent time,  maybe a minor thing. 

 

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 05/25/2019 - 12:57pm

I'm going to assume there is already a court order custody and parenting plan in place. No, here is no such thing as ripping it up and just writing a new one. Modifications can be filed for, sure. 

From reading your original posting on the blog side, it appears BM's and Dad's biggest issue is communication and that Dad has allowed BM to overrule. Considering Dad only has six days a month (every other weekend and every other Thursday) he gets roughly 20% parenting time to begin with to work with.

I did read the Sunday afternoon meal.snack thing in our other post. Ridiculous. He does not have to entertain BM's hissy fits. but simply ignoring her would be best. Do you really expect to draw up and file " Dad can feed kid lunch at 2:30pm" ?

I recommend Our Family Wizard for parental communication. And that can be court ordered.

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Submitted by still learning on Sat, 05/25/2019 - 1:04pm

Most CO's have language that parents can change the agreement at anytime. If one parent adds an addendum to the agreement then both parents will need to sign before a notary and submit the paperwork to the courts. It will need to be signed by a judge to become offical. The best thing to do would be to go to a court sponsored mediator and have them write up an agreement to submit.  You both would still need to have the agreement notorized and you may have to appear before the court to let the judge know you are both in agreement. 

On the other hand you could save time and fees and just start implementing the plan yourselves if you are both in agreement.  

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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 05/28/2019 - 6:12pm

I have not heard of a agreement related to parallel parenting. As I understand it... each parent parents as they see fit during their time with the child.