How Do I Explain This To DH?
DH and I always text over my lunch hour. Well today he text me and said "After I take SD home, we have 2 hours of OMG time." (OMG time is sexy time). I text him back just 'Oh' and he said 'Just oh?' I text him back and said something I probably shouldn't have, "Sorry, it's just children don't turn me on." Yea apparently that didn't come out right or go over well. I just don't like hearing about/seeing SD and then have DH turn around and talk about how he is randy. I just cannot be all hot and bothered after being around her. I can't. I just can't. I don't know how to explain this to him without him becoming defensive and upset. I understand that it's a bit of resentment of SD and hatred for the fact DH had a child with someone like BM...aka jealousy. I hate feeling this way, but I hate him bring up sex just after SD has been talked about or has been around. i just can't get in the 'mood' with her presence so fresh...
Am I just overreacting and being childish feeling this way? Anyone else experience this?
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lol...I can relate. I can't
lol...I can relate. I can't get in the mood either when they are over for thier weekends. It just feels wrong..or dirty or something. Just like I can't stand to have them try to sit or lay in our bed, in my head the things that happen in that bed and SK's just don't mix! you are not crazy, I totally feel the same way.
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same here.... when skids are
same here.... when skids are here or even talked about i get sick and angry....... and i hate when dh brings either of their names up --especially on our skid free weekend... it's like "does he really not want any action??" or just to dumb to get it?? i'm sure the instant sour look of disgust that comes over me when skids are mentioned has to be a clue.
I don't think you're
I don't think you're overreacting...I'm one of these people too. Very rarely can I get in the mood when SD5 is there, and same as you even when FDH talks about her and being horny in the same conversation it weirds me out. I don't know if this is b/c I don't have kids of my own yet, and maybe it'll change. But right now, if SD is around he's not getting much. If wants any, don't talk about SD!
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I've texted him about 5
I've texted him about 5 times since the 'yea ok love you c u later' text he sent me (signaling that he is pissed) and no answers at all. So now I am trying to decide whether to take the high road and just go home after work and offer to talk or to make myself scarce until he falls asleep and I don't have to face his disney dad quilty stare.
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depends on if you feel like
depends on if you feel like fighting and possibly ruining the whole almost here weekend??? i would give him a blow job, write it off and watch my ps & qs when referencing skid(s) in the future...
I can relate...I think it
I can relate...I think it has something to do with her reminding you that "yuck, he was with her mother" and getting that picture out of our heads is very hard when we see them or have just seen them...it takes a while to forget about that "fact"...I know that my DH would probably feel the same way if he had to deal with what I did...for a while he used to claim he NEVER thought about my ex, but that of course changed when I began talking about my ex everytime he had his daughter...when he complained I told him, "you know, I know it makes you sick and you get messed up pics in your head, believe me that everytime I see your daughter and/or your ex, that happens to me too..." He eventually at least understood it.
lol starfish. I would do the
lol starfish. I would do the whole 'blow job' thing but I have an issue with that as to that is the one thing BM always did to make up for her uhohs and ohnos, plus there was the 'BM always gave me bj's and you never do' comment. Yea talk about being hit with a mac-truck. That was the first, last and only time he has EVER compared me to BM in a negative way. I think I might find myself driving around aimlessly at least until Sd leaves.
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Driving aimlessly - I did
Driving aimlessly - I did that for two hours last night until I had to pee so bad I couldn't stand it. I went "home" and received the usual cold and icy glares from SD's and SS AND MIL - I wished I would have just peed my pants
I'm kinda confused. Was he
I'm kinda confused. Was he having a conversation with you about skids and then switched to OMG time?
I am amazed that some of you
I am amazed that some of you actually talk to your DH’s about their sex with the BM??!! OMG, (totally don’t mean that the way FADING does!) but wow.
I would spit in DH’s face if he EVER told me something like...
there was the 'BM always gave me bj's and you never do' comment.
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DH told me once that BM gave great BJ's
OH HELL NO? yuky!!!
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I'd NEVER forgive DH is he
I'd NEVER forgive DH is he brought up sex with FishNchip. It'd be a mighty cold and lonely bed in my house if he did.
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you can watch things happen, you can make things happen or wonder what the hell happened.
Everytime I see you use
Everytime I see you use "FishNChip" I just bust out in this uncontrollable bubble of giggles...I love it:)
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*takes a bow*..glad I can be of service BBB...:)
I think it's quite fitting, a play on her myspace name...
FH and I sort of had the
FH and I sort of had the same convo this morning. I brought up some "OMG" time tonight as well, since I'm not working and we really haven't had any for like 2 weeks, and he said "Well we have Tortoise, so we'll see."
Don't give me that! It is a yes or no question. Totally turned off now.