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Submitted by Zoie on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 8:36am

Update we picked up SD on December 27th at 6:00PM...she was a total handful until we dropped her off on January 2, 2011. It was not a great time..she was disrespectful, rude, mean, bossy and just a total brat. What bothers me the most is that SD told us she had a lousy Christmas with her BM & family. She couldnt wait to see us and bam..she is a total brat...what the heck happened?? I'm a a loss for words, she was rolling her eyes at us, smirking and laughing when we were giving her hell about her behaviour..

Seriously what the heck is going on???

Z :?

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Submitted by Zoie on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 8:59am

Yes I guess you are right Foxie but my gosh she is getting worse and worse with me. I tell her one thing and she just goes ahead and does whatever the heck she wants..and the smirking omg I just cant handle that type of disrespect..it's bad enough the rolling of the eyes...

I sure hope this improves...not sure how to handle it if it doesn't....

thanks Z Smile

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Submitted by Zoie on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 12:21pm

SD is 9 and I do like your idea about the allowance as I do give her one. I'm going to try that and see how it goes... I have to say she was so difficult this past week it was unreal. I was at my wits end with her. I grounded her and one night I put her to bed at 7:45 because she was so bad.

Gosh I hope this gets better....

Thanks for your thoughts on this..

Z Smile

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Submitted by Asher10 on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 12:02pm

I was told it was normal for kids to treat the parents they can trust like total crap but they treat the parents they don't trust like gold.something about the kid knows the trustworthy parents won't hurt them or abandon them but they aren't secure with the parents they treat like heroes.or something like that.

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Submitted by Zoie on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 12:26pm

Well then she must trust me to the end..because she treated me worse than crap. On New Year's Eve we had a house party - all relatives...at midnight..she wished everyone a Happy New Year except for me...then came over later when her dad said something...so I told her it didnt mean anything now because her dad had to tell her...

Next day she tells me she's sorry and she was going to come over but with all the people in the house and the noise makers she forgot..ok I can buy that..we were 13 people...

Our relationship has been pretty good, actually very good..but it seems to be changing over the past 6-8mths and I'm not sure why. She talks back, is rude and disrespectful..but then she can be so sweet..she told me not long ago that she always felt something was missing in her life until I came along and now her life is complete.(told you she is a very smart girl)...so not sure what to make of this change in her...

Z Smile

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Submitted by Asher10 on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 12:54pm

eeek! she's going through that time when sweet little angel girls turn into hateful evil monsters! happens to the best of us at that age.don't worry,the sweet girl will return at around age 25 or so Wink

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Submitted by Zoie on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 1:02pm

OMG 25..I guess I need to fasten my seatbelt as I'm in for a long ride....wow... Z :jawdrop:

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Submitted by Zoie on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 1:16pm

I did tell her that last week. I told her I'm sorry you had a bad Christmas with BM but it's not my fault and you shouldn't be mad at me and if I did something and you are mad at me then tell me and we can discuss it..she was smirking and looking up at the ceiling not making eye contact..so I was getting so pissed off I had to leave the room in order to regain my composure...wow this is tough....

Does it really get any easier...I highly doubt it...but I'm hoping...

Z Smile

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Submitted by Zoie on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 8:10am

My SD is going through some changes that's for sure and she's pushing the envelope to see how far she can push. I'm only the SM as for her dad he is great with her, he is very involved with her..well as much as he can be because BM holds all the cards..however he is very supportive as well as firm with her. I can honestly say he is a very good dad..sometimes too much..

sigh..I hope it gets better....only time will tell...

thanks everyone.. have a good day!! Z Smile