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In Addition.. update...5.16.07

zimmerman03's picture

So, I have tried to talk to him and it kind of worked, but kind of didnt. He said he feels guilty for putting his children in this kind of situation! I mean shit! GUILTY.. thanks alot buddy!

I took everyone's advice and told him how I felt, wrote it down... thought about what outcome(s) would help etc. That helped but he didnt really get it. I mean the sincerity was there.. but like you said.. he handed his balls to the ex for the most part!

So.. here is the "in addition"... His Girls, my daughter, him and I are all eating supper at my apartment tonight.. I am showing already and I thought to myself.. well before they come over I am making sure that I am not hiding it any longer! so..

I stayed in my work clothes from the office that show I am surely 5 months pregnant. After supper his 6 year old says.."Jacque.. are you pregnant? Do you have a baby in your tummy? I see that your tummy gets bigger every time I see you?" Perfectly honest and respectable way to ask a question like that right? I thought so..

So I say. " Well Lauren... (as bf is sitting right there).. that is something you should ask your daddy. I am not sure I should be the one telling you anything. (i figured I would take that approach so I kind of am telling her.. but making it clear to the BF that hey... now you are on the spot pal..) yeah that didnt work.. you know what he said.. .

" LAUREN!.. that is not something you should ask people! That is plain rude and you need to knock it off"

I WAS LIKE WHAT THE HECK PAL!

So yeah I am still raging mad right now and I asked him and the girls to leave.. I couldnt take lying to her like that.. I would never do that! I hate lying and a gods gift I suck at it too! and I cannto believe he did that to his own children.. IN FRONT OF ME.

I told him I dont want to speak to him for a while till he balls up and deals with this stuff cause this baby is coming no matter what.... I just wish I could do more.. damn.

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Anne 8102's picture

How on earth did you refrain from decking him?! I don't think I could've kept my mouth shut. I'd have said, "Why, yes, honey, I am pregnant and soon you'll have a new baby brother/sister." Five months? Which means you are more than halfway there. He's not giving them very much time to adjust to the idea of having a new sibling, is he? I think he's hurting them more by this ommission than he ever could by telling them the truth. What a butthead.

~ Anne ~

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission."
-Eleanor Roosevelt

Chocoholic's picture

What a dick.... why is he hiding the pregnancy from his daughter?? Maybe I should read your previous post to catch up.... nonetheless that is really messed up!

Chocoholic's picture

What a dick.... why is he hiding the pregnancy from his daughter?? Maybe I should read your previous post to catch up.... nonetheless that is really messed up!

vanessa's picture

i give you so muh credit that he is still breathing...i can only imagine how tiny that made you feel any man should stand up and be proud about his children born and unborn he should be running around shouting from the rooftops maybe that would be my suggestion to you...smile!

laughterandtears's picture

Sweetie, that would have been the end of his life as he knew it the minute he yelled at that little girl for asking a sincere question. I am so sorry for you!! My Dh did something similiar when I was pregnant, but not to the ss's, he did it to BM and his WHOLE family. When I found out about this, I personally made the calls and told them myself. I was not about to have my unborn child thrust to the back burner so easily. To this day, I refuse to back down when it comes to my son. Remember, It is a mother's divine right to protect her offspring.
IF IT WAS EASY, EVERYONE WOULD DO IT.