I'm a BM to a girl (now an adult living on her own) and a new stepmom to two girls 11 & 6. Yes, I'm doing it all over again! I was thinking today, I know for a fact that I was not like the bm of my SDs. I was not in anyway shape or form vindictive, mean, manipulative, abusive, or anything SDs bm has been and continues to be. Not once (well maybe a lot in my head) did I say anything to my daughter about her father or his family! Maybe it was because I was young and hadn't come into my own. I dont know I am just not a mean person and believe in treating people as I would like to be treated. Though many times this doesn't happen.
I know there's a lot of biomoms and dads here, just wondering if you all acted responsibly and respectful towards the other party or if you didn't or don't?
I know I did, in fact we barely spoke unless we had to. We never even looked at each other, we would use notes or lawyers! It sucked but it worked. My daughter is a great person though as a child was a bit unruly who figured out early on who was who in this two family situation. Though I must say, my role as a mother was limited, because I travel extensively for work. He was more of the stay at home father. We ran into problems on several occasions but we werein court rooms a lot for them. Heck we still take each other to court, more of a hardheadedness type of deal than anything else cause we simply do not speak.

Anyway just looking for some feedback...cause sometimes I want to tell stepdaughters bm that I've been where she is at, and that life isn't so difficult as she makes it. No reason to be so mean and do the PAS thing! Or the bitch thing either...