You win F*cking Princess
Well Princess you have won. Your mardy selfish entitled behaviour is according to your Disney Land Dad MY FAULT and the reason your upset and want to go back to your scab of a Mothers house is because of me and because I don't make an effort with you. He can't see your manipulating him because your a selfish little bastard. Oh no its MY FAULT because he feels he has to tell you off on behalf of me. He said he wouldn't tell you off anymore as your behaviour does not piss him off and he is going to stop disciplining you and I need to learn to 'deal with it.
So your free now to create mayhem in MY home and be a demanding selfish bitch. And I have to keep my mouth shut.
So you have won.......Princess needs crowning.
Its time for me now to plan MY future without this shit you dish up.
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unless u plan on leaving,
unless u plan on leaving, good luck trying to turn the other cheek. i tried that and it doesnt work. theres something about watching the lil shithead get away with murder that makes u want to commit it urself.
I am just going to live my
I am just going to live my life for me now. I was considering having a baby of my own. But not now not with him and Princess living like a pair of screaming banshees. Not a good environment to bring a baby into. Our views are too different on parenting to produce a child of our own. It wouldn't be fair on a new baby.
I love my SO but love is not enough. Not anymore.
This is the first step! You
This is the first step! You get to your final straw and that's it. Oh have I been where you are. How old is your SD?
Its all you can take to let go, but once you do its great. I got to a point where I completely ignored her. No talking not even look at her. Dad deals with it all.
I don't handle anything when it comes to her. Sometimes I make myself do a dinner with all of them. Start acting like she doesn't exist. No talking to SO about her, no listening to his whining about her.
Just WAIT until HE has to deal with her himself. You'll see how long she wears the crown.
Your sd sounds like she is a
Your sd sounds like she is a product of her environment and parenting, which is down to your SO. Ultimately HE is in the driving seat and they sound as bad as each other, however as an adult your OH should be the one managing her and her attitude towards you.
Seeing as neither your partner nor his snotty kid respect you, then I wouldnt be respecting them either. If your OH has a problem with that, tell him "Oh I dont want to hear it. Stop putting me in the middle of your issues. Disrespect me? Then have some back."
I would also STOP doing anything for said skid. Dont talk to her, dont engage with her, DO anything for her. As other poster said, do NOT talk about sd to or with OH. So if he decides he has an issue he wants your input on DO NOT fall for it. Hell this guy tells you he doesnt want to be put in the middle of it all, welllll guess what sugar? Like HELL do you either. Tell him that really sweetly. Always tell him nicely and calmly, make sure the more HE loses his cool with you the MORE calmer and sweet you get. Do not give these people the opportunity to blame you or use your reaction/what you said/did/didnt do against you. Opt out.
Your OH is blaming you when you HAVE tried with him and his child, saying you havent tried hard enough. Screw that. STOP. He hasnt seen not trying until NOW. Dont throw stones in glass houses I say.
Start putting yourself first. Skid comes over? Go out for yummy dinner with friends and family. Put a huge fake smile on your face and do everything with a happy look. You know why? Because your OH cant say jack shit about you deliberately trying to hurt his preciouses feelings or being a bitch. If he does (and he will probably try) then tell him "Hunny you seem to be the one with the problem. I just want to see my friends". Nope you are just getting on with your life, protecting yourself against negative nasty people, letting OH get on with things (isnt that what you wanted hunny?). Use his own damn words and wishes against him.
If he starts accusing you of hating his daughter as you dont do anything with her or speak to her, tell him "I am not her parent. YOU are. You told me I wasnt trying hard enough. I was. I dont like being taken advantage of, so I choose to disengage from it all. That way I am not being used. Doesnt matter what you think, after all you dont care what I am feeling. See you later..."
If he gets abusive, walk away. Ignore him. That will kill him more. Dont over explain things, as you have nothing to continue justifying as HE is in the wrong.
Your OH will soon regret it believe me and use your anger, resentment to making YOUR life better and OH's worse. Its called just desserts imo.
By the way. She hasn't won
By the way. She hasn't won anything. Seriously, just wait. I listened to SO rush SD off the phone yesterday when she was telling him about her new job and first day. Still a daddy's girl, but he is slowly becoming disinterested.
Sorry...but you know, I
Sorry...but you know, I remember the days when DH would blame me...I remember so many times telling him..."you know, I feel sorry for you...not for me, but I know and you will someday find out, that if you leave me because of your crazy kid, when you are 50+ and she has her own life and doesn't really care about you, that you left someone whom loved you and gave you 100% in a relationship for someone who was just selfish. So, no, I won't tolerate you telling me it's my fault. I will tell you that if you say that it's my fault, I will walk away. If you let HER destroy this, I know in my heart that someday, she won't care and by then honey, neither will I.
I think I said it enough times that he realized that really, he was little a little shit destroy us and that although he hated the thought of it, he also truly knew in his heart that I was right...that once she got what she wanted, in another 10=15yrs, he'd be alone and she would move on anyway. He stopped blaming me and finally realized what I told him was true.