So I have two beautiful step kids, boy age 11 and girl age 8. We have been having one large issue over the past 2 going on 3 years. My step daughter continues to want to sleep with my husband and I or in our bedroom, even on the floor, or in her brothers room but never in her own room by herself. We get them every other weekend and 1 day overnight during the week on the weekends we do not have them, and whenever their mother needs a glorified babysitter (which is another story, but we are always happy to have them).
During the beginning we let her sleep on our floor in our bedroom one out of two of the nights, and then started making her every night. Because we have them so seldomly there are some nights we're out of town where we all stay in the same room, or she has sleep overs, etc.
Over the past year we have been trying more and more to make her sleep in her own room, in her own bed, by herself, but there have been 3 times now where she comes back to us saying her stomach hurts, we give her some tums or medicine to help and put a bucket by her bed, and she'll be crying cause she can't sleep with us and seems to get so nervous she actually does end up throwing up. Then she has to stay home from school as the schools don't allow any kids that have thrown up to come to school the next day just to be safe.
The mother says that she's "working on it" with her, but both her and my step son have indicated or hinted at she still always sleeps in bed with her mom. No, we do not ask them if she allows it as we don't ask what's going on at their moms as that is her business, but has anyone else encountered this problem? Or what else to say to her mother that will get her to actually try to make her daughter sleep alone?