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Will it ever change… Seven years later and his ex only gets worse. We have been together since his girls were two and three and my son was four. The first two years were very difficult because we were like a divided family.. him and his two girls and my son and myself. I was always close with his girls but as they get older the situation with his younger daughter has changed she has a lot of anxiety issues and my BF has just got permission to get her help… HA.. got permission because her own mother can’t be bothered to get her help. She does not work she is more like a sponge. She married about two years ago to someone with no children with a decent job and moved right into his house. The girls are never enrolled in after school activities or sports and seem jealous because my son has always been and they always have to attend his functions. We tried to enroll them in our town sports but we could not commit to the practices and games because it was on their mother’s times. The same with them going to the dentist. She would go herself but would not take them. Even the doctor’s co-pays are sent to our house and my BF carries the medical. It is always a one-way street.. Every chance she gets she tells me that I need to mind my own business that her kids are nothing to me. I have never claimed to be their mother and I do not bash her in front of them. She is 10 years older than me and you would think that her maturity level would be a bit higher than it is. After reading some of the other blogs I see all the same scenarios that I have been dealing with.. the awkward school functions where the children are too scared to talk to you, the Father never stepping up because the mother takes it out on the kids and Father is like an afterthought. Why do people feel that have the right to treat people this way… Because they can and they will keep using their kids to do it…..

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Thank you. But he is never on my side it seems. He is a coward.. I do understand a parent would do anything for their kid but there comes a time to put your foot down. He has been letting her run our lives... Rescheduling birthday parties, they miss family weddings and when he says something... Last year we did not see the kids for an entire month..and who wants to get the courts involved. His biggest excuse is they will have more fun if they go here or there with this one and that one and I tell him.. you are their father your time is important they will not be little forever. I have an Ex husband also and the situation is so different, there is no hostility between my ex and my BF and me his GF. I feel so bad for the kids they are in the middle. Even the kids say.. oh we better ask mom if we can go over dads.. what he pays her in child support, supports her and her kids where she was a new car and does not have to work, but yet the kids suffer because they are not involved in the activity's that would like to join.