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WickedStepMom850's picture

:? :jawdrop: :O

No idea what to do!! OMG. Just finished with Court proceedings so we can take the kids off the unstable mother's hands. There has been much anguish, it has been nasty. I have made mistakes. Through it all, though, I have bitten my tongue long after it bled, and there have been times when I blow up.

I do and do and DO for kids who aren't mine, by nature. Yet I love them as if they were my own. I type this while I'm still quite angry with a daughter (i don't prefer the "step" prefixes) who I go out of my way for, to give her things my folks couldn't afford. I don't expect her to "choose"...It's not fair to make her choose.

Her MOMMY says bad things about me (she ADMITTED) during Court procedings, that she talks negatively about me to her kids. Regardless, I go on about my business, working a full-time ICU job AND attending school full-time, in order to BETTER our lives. I'm exhausted, I'm irritated because I need a nap (lol)...MOMMY works sporadically (at best), Daddy and Me (wickey witch!) buy everything, we feed them, clothe them...I INSURE THEM MEDICALLY/DENTALLY....and every couple of months, MOMMY will get get the child to blatantly disrespect in some way, and I lose it.

This kind of behavior out of children is excusable, and I will eventually, with time, get over it. But mine and Daughter's relationship will never be the same, however, and that saddens me. WHAT TO DO??? I don't like my stepchild!!!

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stepmama2one's picture

What did the child do I thought you said that her mommy said bad things to you? I guess I dont understand why your mad at SD for something her mom did? Is SD saying bad things about you too? Did she admit to saying bad things about you along with her mother? Sorry not tying to sound like a rag just dont understand the problem....

stepmama2one's picture

ohhhh I see what your saying. I apologize if I sounded inconsiderate. I see what you mean. I have the same problem with my SD. I DO EVERYTHING for that child and every once in awhile she gets conned by her mother n does some disrespectful thing to me too. I guess it would depend how old she is. My SD is 10 and she really just doesnt know better. I mean her mom is her MOM and that may be a way of showing her mother that she is still loyal to her. Of course the only reason why she needs to confess her loyalty to her mother is probably because mother sees yours and SD relationship and sees what you do for her and she feels betrayed. I wish mothers out there would just realize that its so stupid to be pissed about their children havin relationships with other woman and if they would only realize that you are another person that will love SD then maybe she wouldnt be so vindictive..Good Luck and again Im sorry if I sounded like a rag on the first post...