Frst of all I have 3 children from previous relationships Son 14, Daughter, 12, and Daughter 3. When my SO and I met my youngest was 18 months and he has become the only father she know. My SO has 2 children from his previous marriage SS 11 and SD 9. BM is very controlling and hard to deal with. Originally SO had children 3 weekends a months and 10 weeks in the Summer. BM now has that reduced to every other weekend and 6 weeks in the summer because the court agreed the children needed to be in every activity under the sun which, bring me to my issue. SS is in Football, Wrestling, Boy Scouts, and Baseball. We live 2 hours apart. BM thinks their father should be at every single event. The kid is in FB from Sept-Nov. Then Wrestling from Jan-April. Baseball then begins. She doesn't care whose weekend it is or what is going on in our home. It is every weekend folks (remeber there are 4 other children)! There is no time for us and honestly his own daughter frequently gets pushed to the side lines (after years of proding and offering to pay she finally gets dance class). It would be one thing if the boy were some future sports super star but seriously he hasn't won one a wrestling match in the last 2 years. I try and be present for most events for all the children but, I have about had it. I've pointed it out to my SO and he still goes to every single event unless work calls. To make it worse his son has become increasingly selish and hard to deal with. SS is signifigantly over wieght. I attempt to make healthy meals and he complains even when the other picky eaters love it. He eats everything (junk) then denies it. Monoploizes all his fathers time and is in general becoming rude to all other household member (but only behind his fathers back). I feel terrible for SD I feel like I'm the only one who spends time with her where it isn't centered around her brother.  I feel bonded to my SD she and all the other children are close but, my SS drives me and the other older children crazy! I am at my wits end with him and am seriously have considered leaving because he drives me crazy. Of course then I think of how my my youngest daughter loves him and how much I do when his son isn't involved. Because honestly he is a wonderful father and partner in almost all aspect. He just simply can't stop with his son he feels like if he doesn't do all the things all the time his son won't love him (his son is never happy no matter what)! Anymore whenever I try to bring the issue up I get shut down. I'm just picking on my SS or I just hate him. It's not the case folks. I want to like him but when the center the world around him the older he gets the more unbearable he's becoming.  Advice is great on how other have dealt with this type of situation but honestly, I just needed to vent where I wasn't made to feel like the Wicked Witch!