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Reason #863 why Crazy is a dumb box

TrueNorth77's picture

Skids are with Crazy this week. SD13 had a volleyball game tonight. Figure it got done around 6pm. At 8pm SD started texting DH pics of her leg. It was slightly red and maybe a tiny bit swollen on the back. Apparently this started after volleyball at 6pm. Crazy declared she thought it was cellulitis. Then SD calls DH and says "what do you want me to do"? Um...DH isn't even there to see it- ask your mom! DH says, idk, if it gets worse or doesn't go away you will probably have to go to the Dr. 

After they hang up SD text DH again and said Crazy could only take her to the Dr. (So Urgent care) Tonight, since she works in the morning. DH said, idk what to tell you, I just got done with work now (almost 13hrs), and have to work in the morning too. DH just changed shifts- he was on 3rd, now he's rotating 1st/2nd shift. DH said he thinks she was trying to get him to take her to the Dr (most likely at Crazy's urging), but This rash had only been there for 2hrs. We're not taking a kid to urgent care for a mild rash she's had for 2hrs! 
 

Right after DH sent that text making it clear he wasn't taking her, SD said Crazy was taking her to Urgent care. Of course she was. These kids now think you have to go to urgent care for any tiny thing because she's taken them there so much. SD was texting DH constantly about this, for the next hour and 1/2. Until SD finally said she did NOT have cellulitus *gasp*, and the rash actually had already gone away, and the Dr. Had no idea what it was, but SD thought it may have been from some lotion she borrowed from a friend before volleyball. 

And that is how our entire night was interrupted by something ridiculous because she's too stupid to handle any situation logically. 
 

 

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JRI's picture

My SD61 always did and still wants instant medical response, preferably from family, but also from the medical profession.  Every ailment is ultra serious requiring the utmost pity and concern from family.  The medical profession is at fault if she can't get immediate attention.

She does have some ailments but most are made worse because she doesnt do regular followups leading to Urgent Care and ER visits.  She was here today and telling me about her most recent ailment which led to an Urgent Care visit last week.  She wasn't happy because her recovery hasn't been instantatous so I suggested she call her primary.  " But, I hate to be on hold".   She doesn't want to call, be put on hold, have to explain to someone who minimizes drama, have to wait for an appointment.  We want instant care!

TrueNorth77's picture

This is a pet peeve of mine with people. I'm not sure how you listen to it all without rolling your eyes!

ESMOD's picture

You know what can stop that?  when the kid ends up with her own ER bill... that slowed my SD's roll on going to the dr for small stuff.. when they had to pay their own bills..lol.

TrueNorth77's picture

I should have clarified- Crazy is the one instigating all of this. She tells skids they need to go to the Dr/Urgeht care and then takes them. She tries to dictate that same thinking in our house by telling us we need to take them or telling them we need to take them, but we ignore her- DH takes them when he thinks it is appropriate. Skids just go along with whatever Crazy says. 

CastleJJ's picture

Our BM loves to use the ER as her own personal pediatrician for SS... She takes him to the ER for literally everything - cough, sprained thumb, rash, etc. She wants immediate medical attention and resolution for every issue and most of the time, the doctors can't identify anything wrong and sends them home without answers. DH got on her case a few years ago because we have no legal custody and therefore no say in medical decision making, but we have to pay a portion of every out-of-pocket medical bill. BM was racking up sky-high medical bills for things like a cold, a bruise, a sore throat. DH told her to use the pediatrician for minor ailments instead of rushing SS to the ER. BM refused, saying the gets a discount at the hospital because she works there... Yes, she works there, but an employee discount of 50% on a $500 ER visit is still more expensive than the $20 copay to see the pediatrician. I swear these BMs don't think with their brains. 

ESMOD's picture

IMHO.. a trip to the ER should be for health issues that are URGENT.. and likely to require hospitalization.  The next layer down is "Urgent Care".. where the issue is fairly urgent.. but is not likely to need admission to the hospital.. like a sprain.. serious rash, sore throat/strep potential etc.. 

Then there is the "walk in clinic" many family practices have.. that could be used if available.

The problem with so many medical professionals is it is super hard to get an appointment in any near term fashion.  My DH had a serious hospitalization last year when a condition went so far because he couldn't get an appointment with his Dr office for weeks.

bananaseedo's picture

I agree that it is very hard to get appointments, but I've also seen people use ER for all kinds of non-sensical things.  They can't bother with waiting, high conflict bm's are notorious for everything being ER-so I can sympathize.

Getting appointments these days is incredibly hard!  Or you get to see them weeks/months after you should.  It also depends on the office.  When I was hospitalized recently with the clots, I called the list of Drs they told me to after I was released for follow-up.

I had to still find a primary as our previous one left the practice, so went to the same office and luckily they found one 4 days after I was released. My endo wanted to see me right away and booked me 2 days after my release. My obgyn, which is urgent I see so we can figure out how to reduce/minimize periods, can't get me in till end of Oct- which would be me at risk of likely having another horrible period while on blood thinners before they can see me. I find that incredibly neglectful and wrong. 

CastleJJ's picture

Yes, I feel like specialists take a while to get into. I find that pediatricians though can usually get you in next day. BM hasn't had an issue getting SS into the pediatrician, she just prefers not to. 

Our BM just liked using the ER. I think it makes her feel good because her colleagues were the ones treating SS, so it allows her to show off as a "good mom" to her friends. Plus, she always brings up the employee discount, which isn't much a discount compared to an office visit. 

Winterglow's picture

The abuse of ER really pisses me off. It's because of clowns like this that it took 6 effin' hours to see me before whisking me straight to intensive care for a week. I nearly died. Bastards. Idiots. 

TrueNorth77's picture

Right?? That's exactly it! Now I'm even more irritated. I hate people that do this in general- make a big deal out of every tiny ailment, go to urgent care for nothing, making it so others who genuinely need it can't get care. It's so opposite of how I am that I stew on it and question how DH ever could have married someone this idiotic.

Rags's picture

Lather, rinse, repeat.

Also... "You are with your mother. You and she will have to figure this out.

Also... Lather.... rinse.... repeat.

Cellulitis?  Lol.

I have had it three times. Not fun. Cellulitis can be incredibly painful. It is not just a red spot or rash.  Swelling, fever, pain......  

Time to gift this little hypcondriac a thermometer and send her a llnk to WebMD so she can manage her own medical care.  SInce she is so high demand and such a Med genious.

TrueNorth77's picture

"No blood, no fever, no displaced limbs, don't bother me"! 
 

I am actually a caring person, but I cannot handle skids complaining about every tiny ache or pain. I will say SD earned a few points when she fell off her scooter and scraped up her leg and was bleeding and came in nonchalantly telling me about it while she got a band aid and put it on herself. I tended to her but was proud she didn't make a huge deal. Crazy encourages everything to be a huge episode. I cannot stand it.

bananaseedo's picture

'And that is how our entire night was interrupted by something ridiculous because she's too stupid to handle any situation logically. 

Maybe some people here will remember my SD tampon story lol- Nah....common sense tends to escape sometimes.