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$4 a month. She couldn't do $4 a MONTH for her child.

BSgoinon's picture

It's official, I HATE BM.

We've never asked her to pay for ANYTHING for SS. Even when she was "simi normal" and had some custody of him, we always paid for everything. NO questions asked. EXCEPT for his health care. She had gotten him on state insurance when he was born, it was Kaiser and we really like his Dr, and... it was $8 per month. A few years ago it dropped to $4 a month. Even through all of her craziness, she had kept up on his insurance...

Last month, I got a bad feeling that she was going to let it go. I don't know how I always know when she is going to do something stupid, but I do. So I asked the ADMIN at DH's office to send me the info when open enrollment comes so we can just put him on ours and not have to worry about it. We also have Kaiser so he wouldn't even have to switch Dr's. Well... Open Enrollment is NOW... BUT... DH's company is now in the middle of an acquisition and we can't make ANY changes on our insurance. Of course.

SS has a weird rash on his legs. I called Kaiser yesterday to get him an APPT, low and behold... his insurance is lapsed. I KNEW IT. I took him to the Dr last month and it was fine. Not now. I am FUMING.

So... DH is gone, I am PISSED and I text BM for the first time in a year. Ugh.... told her what happened. An hour later she plays dumb "I had no idea, I'll call tomorrow, I'm at work now". But... she can be on FB at work, just can't call about her kids insurance *eyeroll**

Today she says the program he was on no longer offers Kaiser. We go back and forth as I tell her she needs to figure it out she says "take him to the ER and send me the bill". No, it's not an emergency, but he does need to see his Dr. She goes on to tell me that ER is like urgent care, or "take him to County". I replied "Same county that you have complained about how incompetent the Dr's are and how rude the staff is, no thank you, he deserves better than that".

After several texts back and forth I told her if he has an emergency I will take him to ER and have the bill sent to her, in the mean time, figure out his Kaiser, even if you have to pay for a cash policy, handle it.

I hate her.

Once the acquisition is done I will be adding him to our insurance. But I will also continue to have her keep him covered. Can't hurt to have double and she needs to do SOMETHING for him.

The hate runs deep.

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BSgoinon's picture

The worst part is, she never even asked me if he was ok, or why he was going to the DR. It wasn't until she told me to take him to the ER that I told her it was just a rash and I wouldn't do that.

BSgoinon's picture

I can't do anything, we are in the middle of an acquisition. It is a qualifying event, but I have to wait for DH's company to fully transition.

BSgoinon's picture

I thought the same, but the deal is completely done, so now he has to wait the 90 days or whatever with the new company to make changes.

ChiefGrownup's picture

You can also try Walgreen's. They have a nurse practitioner on site at some of them. Usually pretty good for rashes. Get her to reimburse you for the bill.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

Some King Soopers/Krogers also have a clinic with a Nurse Practitioner. You can usually get out of there for less than $100.00

Livingoutloud's picture

I wonder how the kid qualifies for state insurance if his dad works full time? I thought to qualify for state insurance one needs to be destitute. I understand that BM is poor but dad has full custody or no? Don't they ask for proof every year? I struggled one year in my life and asked for state insurance for my DD and it was denied because supposedly I made too much. Just wonder how she managed to keep him on state insurance. Does she lie to the state?

When you get him on dads insurance you should probably drop state insurance because it could be a fraud. Medicaid or other state programs are for those who can't afford and don't have other insurance. I don't think it is allowed to have both. Check on that

BSgoinon's picture

^^^ This^^^

I have checked in to it.

She is legally obligated to keep his insurance, so it goes by what SHE qualifies for. Our insurance isn't legally required, but I don't trust her so I will be adding him anyway.

Livingoutloud's picture

Oh I see. I didn't know people can have both. I'd think state wouldn't want to spend money if people already got health insurance. My mistake

hereiam's picture

"take him to the ER and send me the bill"

First of all, I hate people that think the ER is just the same as going to their own personal doctor and should be used for any 'ol ailment. Also, the ER is NOT just like Urgent Care, that's why they are called two different things, each having it's own meaning.

Second, send her the bill? Um, ok, what for? Like she's going to pay it?

And yeah, she didn't even care enough to ask why her son needed to go to the doctor.

Oh my God, this woman!

BSgoinon's picture

I actually told her that somewhere in the conversation, he has a RASH not a heart attack, I will not take him to the ER for that. It's people like you that bog down the system using the ER as your Dr and when REAL emergencies come in, they can't get to them. That's not what the ER is meant for.

Send her the bill so she can ignore it... yeah.

moving_on_again's picture

And you would be obligated to pay that bill according to the hospital because you signed the admission papers. How can she pay a $4000 bill if she can't pay a $4 bill.

BSgoinon's picture

She has no intention of paying it. She says "have them send it to me" so she can ignore it. Her credit is sh!t so what does she care if she has a medical collection? I am sure she has MANY MANY of her own.

classyNJ's picture

My offer still stands }:) }:) Jersey style with some Florida Swamp thrown in.

BSgoinon's picture

Oh, BM uses ER for EVERYTHING. I remember one time she posted on FB that she was going to the ER for her skin. Apparently someone that follows her is an ER nurse and ripped her a new one. Of course BM just deleted her. She also went on a rant once about how horrible the Doctors are and her Grandfather commented and told her to "please keep your disgusting garbage opinions to yourself". (Go GRAMPS!) And someone else chimed in right behind him agreeing with him. She told them BOTH (her poor grandpa) to get off her page if they don't like what she has to say.