Cashing in twice on Holidays
Man, these skids and their expectations of double-holidays due to divorce. Typically we have done something for Easter for skids because we either have them, or they were younger so it made sense- an easter egg hunt, baskets. This year, SS is less than a month from 16, and SD is coming up on 13. Plus we didn't have them on Easter, Crazy did. But guess who is the one who facillitates any Easter baskets/gifts? That would be me. DH isn't into this stuff. I asked DH if he wanted to do anything this year and he said no- we don't have them on Easter and they are too old anyway. I don't necessarily agree they are too old, but also I'm over skids right now and not going to bend over backwards to buy them crap. Especially when they are with Crazy for the day and I'm sure she got them baskets. They never eat half the candy anyway.
SD repeatedly asked DH if we were going to do something for them for Easter- baskets, egg hunt. He said no. She asks why not and he said you aren't even with us, and you're too old. She said, we've not been with you before and you've still done something. While that may be true, this whole trying to cash in twice on a holiday is getting a bit old. It feels slightly entitled that just because your parents are divorced you expect to get double everything. And also, you are going to start getting an attitude and question DH's parenting, and you think you deserve an extra Easter?? I had already gotten them a few small things (candy) prior to them irritating me this week, so I made them each a bag and left it on the counter with their names on them. DH said that when he was telling SD no to baskets/hunt that he made sure they knew the bags were from me and he had nothing to do with it. So SD was still asking if they would get baskets/an egg hunt, even after she saw the bag of candy...apparently the candy wasn't enough. Good Grief.
Oh and get this! SD's best friend lives 2 blocks away and she spends a ton of time there, and vice versa. The friend's mom seems nice but a bit..over-the-top. She bought SD AND SS Easter baskets, (She doesn't even know SS!), which I'm sure just reinforces SD's/BM's belief that we are terrible parents, and she asked SD for Crazy's RING SIZE to buy Crazy a bday present. Um,what?! They are not actual friends, they have communicated via text for things related to SD and SD's friend..and she is buying Crazy a RING?? Crazy has presented herself as mother of the year by fawning over SD via text and online...and SD doesn't tell them the crazy stuff she does. Like kicking SD out of the house. Or telling SD she is the reason Crazy doesn't have a boyfriend. There was a moment in time where I thought, maybe SD's friend's parents and DH and I could be friends, but DH and I suspect they are not our people.
Edit to add: I am done doing all of the work for these things, especially when DH doesn't think we need to, Which is why I only gave them the very minimal candy I had already bought weeks ago and nothing more. Times they are a-changin!