Why are bedrooms always such an issue for us??
I feel like the crappiest person on earth cause I don't want to give my stepson a room to himself. He is here every other weekend and has always had his own room at our house because that was important to DH. When we recently moved into our new house (3br), I pretty much demanded that the front bedroom (it's attached to the living room with french doors)would be my office. I work from home and meet with clients here and working out of the living room had been a nightmare. This is like THE perfect space for me.
The back bedroom is large and it's actually like 2 very small rooms attached with a large opening. We decided that we'd put BD13 in there with her bed in the back of the room and add a futon in the front of the room giving SS11 a spot to sleep when he is here. It was never intended to be his room, but more BD's room that doubles as a "Kids Suite" when he is here and as it turns out, my husbands niece has had to stay with us off and on over the last few months because her mother is a bad alcoholic and she uses the futon in BD's room too. It's really more of a guest area for whoever is here, but SS isn't getting that and DH isn't explaining it to him.
This weekend is the first time he's been in there since we moved about 6 weeks ago because DH's niece was here last time and before that the futon wasn't in there yet so he stayed in the living room. He's been very vocal all weekend about it being HIS room. When BD locked the door to change clothes, he exclaims, "great! I'm locked out of MY OWN room". He knocked on the door earlier today and my daughter says, "what", he responds "I want to come in MY room!" He knocked on the door again later and she tells him just to come in and he's like, "sorry, I'm not used to sharing MY room with a girl!" and I'm thinking, you aren't sharing YOUR room with a girl, a girl is sharing HER room with you... and it's probably totally selfish of me but I'm basically seeing it as her room with a space for whoever is here to stay and he is seeing it as equally his. DH isn't explaining it to him because he wants his son to feel like he has a spot here. And I overheard him tell SS that he was going to work on getting him his own space for when he is here. So I'm feeling really stressed out over the whole situation. It's probably stupid and will work itself out... hopefully I don't loose my office in the process There I go feeling selfish again... can anyone relate?