Is this an acceptable boundary?
So SD12 is apparently allowed to use her phone at school during lunch and other designated times. I don't agree with this at all. She's at school. She's 12. What possible reason could she have to not be able to make it through the day without being on her phone. It bleeds over into the fact that DH and BM have zero rules regarding her phone use and it drives me nuts because she's constantly glued to it.
So my problem is that I'm a SAHM to DS1 and recently SD has been texting me during school asking if she can FaceTime with DS. I don't think it's appropriate at all and want to be able to have a discussion with DH about it but I know he'll go on the automatic Disney dad defense about how he doesn't see a problem with it and I'll be the bad guy like normal.
Am I being the bad guy here or is this an appropriate boundary to set? I know I'm not her parent so I don't have any say about her normal phone use but I feel like this is something that affects me and I should be able to have a say about it.