I'm new to this site and really need some advice. My husband has an adult son (25) who is the most irresponsible person I've ever met. He has worked with his dad for most of his life but somehow, my husband and I still support him. He lives in a free house with his fiance' and their daughter (another due any time) and only has to pay utilities, cell phone and food (they have food stamps). We are constantly giving them money, fixing vehicles,they move in and out of our house, he's constantly going to Court for one thing or another (usually because he didn't handle his business the first time), and he generally has an entitlement attitude about everything! To top it off, his 1/2 brother (his "mother's" from another husband) lives with us, too. This kid (20) is not required by my husband to pay us rent, works with him, as well (and gets a pay check), borrows my car or his truck (somehow he can't afford his own), eats my food, uses my elec and water and, if not at work, sleeps all day long and all night long. This has been going on for years with the step son and about a year with the brother. I'm sick of dealing with these grown kids and whenever I try to bring it up, my husband and I get in a huge fight. We have even separated over this kid and his "issues". I even have a lien on my house where my husband, without telling me, cosigned for a duplex for him and he and his roommate destroyed it! I have had to quit work and turn down other job opportunities because I am so stressed out (I've had two heart attacks before age 50). This kid cannot function in the real world and I'm sick of dealing with it. My question is, am I wrong for feeling this way? I feel guilty, but at the same time, it's far time he grew up! We have no savings because we give everything to this kid and I feel like my two younger kids (15 and 11) are suffering and doing without to cater to my SS. Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you