Backstory: The BM and skids used to be on Chef's health insurance. At time of the split, he had a job with a major, global company so health insurance was relatively low cost. When they divorced, the BM still tried to sneak onto his health insurance a year later.

Eventually BM got a glimpse of reality that she could not be a professional stay-in-bed mom like she had been up to that point because Chef is blue collar and doesn't earn a white collar salary like some of the DHs on here that are basically still supporting the stay-in-bed BM who refuses to work. (no offense to those of you who are truly stay at home moms)

The BM had a pipe dream of being a millionaire and naming her own hours by opening a bakery and catering service right across the street from. . . you guessed it, SEVERAL THRIVING bakery and catering services. She went through with it despite advice to the contrary and it failed after less than 12 months, even after pouring money into it from her wealthy grandfather. Just a glimpse into the BM's intelligence and what I think of a bachelor's degree obtained after the year 1985, but I digress.

The BM eventually had one of her BFFs get her into the local CPS unit there as a caseworker with all the perqs and benefits including cadillac health insurance.

When Chef switched to his present small business job because he could no longer take the physical pounding of the old job, the health insurance there was unaffordable seeing that Chef earns 32K a year and pays 1K a month in CS.

So the three skids were put on BM's insurance and thusly Chef "compensated" her via CS.

That was written into the last CO.

Well the second I turn in the downward mod paperwork, the clerk immediately says "where's HIS health insurance paperwork?" Because the tendency is to ALWAYS put the skids on NCP biodad's insurance. Once again ASSUMING that biodad's job, pay and benefits will be BETTER than that of CP BM's. I explained that the skids are on the respondent's health insurance and nothing has changed as far as that goes. Got the "deer in the headlights" look by the clerk.

I filed the paperwork last Wednesday and haven't heard anything as of yet.

Geez! How ancient thought process can you GET??!! I ALWAYS carried the health insurance for my two bios because I was always the one employed and had the most stable job.