Now That He's Had A Health Scare
Chef is suddenly Mr health-conscious! This is day four of no booze for him. He has proclaimed that he is going to make the second story of the garage a gym. I've only been asking this for 9 years and my latest request was answered by " I never intended to do that with the upstairs garage" just a few months back.
If I wasn't always monitoring my own weight I would do like he did when I was on that strict diet... eat a giant sundae in front of him.
Currently the upstairs garage is uninsulated and not drywalled but full of Chef's junk. Probably four of each tool when he just throws it on the floor doesn't put it away and forgets he has it then goes out and buys another one.
Now he wants to clean out the entire upstairs garage to make it a gym in the middle of summer heat. This ought to be good
Just goes to prove that with most of these men, it is not a problem until it affects them directly!
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Feel for you!
I'm sure your post was just an observation and a vent, but allow me a minute on my soap box please?
Losing weight is like beating an addiction. People know they need to do it, they want to do it, they may even try and fail several times. But it doesn't happen until they're well and truly ready. I'm sure it sucks that now that it's "his" health he sees the light. DH and I are often on the opposite path on this. He was in the best shape of his life around the time I was starting to slack. Then we both slacked together for a while. Last year I got back into the workout routine and he just wasn't ready yet. Work was stressful, life was busy..lots of reasons. But now we're both in it together again . Thank heavens! It's so much easier to exercise and eat well with your spouse!
So as much as it sucks, I'd say give him a hand cleaning out that gym space. Not because he supported you - but because you know (and he finally realizes!) how important it is to have a space and your spouse's support! And with your support maybe this is the time he actually gets healthy! Better than having a health scare that motivates him, and then being defeated by the garage! Who knows, once he gets on the kick, maybe he'll see how important it is to support your ongoing monitoring (and if you ever need more...he can be your cheerleader!)
As for eating the giant sundae in front of you -. I fully expect my husband to celebrate with beer and chips when he hits certain milestones. I'll just cheer him on and keep trucking!
Yep
it was a vent. Ive been on this site for 14 years. This is my third screen name. Wanted to make the point that these guys will never see a problem unless it becomes a problem for them. Whether that be when SM tries to tell DH that he needs to back her up, parent his ferals, whatever.
I have told Chef for years to cut back drinking and eat healthier; believe me gentle reminders not bossy at all. Goes in one ear and out the other. He was not supportive one iota when I was on a diet... he would just criticize and try to sabotage it.