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theoutsider's picture

We are currently over at FDH parents house to visit the kids great grandmother who is visiting from the nursing home..

The kids were playing dominos and the ten year old boy kept losing and throwing the dominos in the direction of his great grandmother who is wheelchair bound and can barely move...

Multiple adults told him to stop throwing the dominos, but this went on for four games until greatgrandma said, "if you do that again, I'm not going to play with you" so I spoke up and said, "no, if he does it again, he is going to sit out a game"...

They play another game and he throws the tile. FDH says, "now you are not going to play." The boy starts crying. His grandpa,
Sits down next to him and says" ill play in your place"
And told the boy to keep score. As grandpa is playing he is pushing the peices back in front of the boy and the boy is choosing which ones to play, and writing the points for grandpa under his name.

I mentioned something about it. and the boy raised his voice back to me saying, "grandpa is playing for me"

So I got up and said, "I'm going into the other room"
And I say there by myself watching tv.
Fdh came over and just looked at me so I said, "I don't agree with what just happened in there, so I thought it better to just walk away."

He said, "I don't agree either"

So I looked strait back at him and said, "well I'm not in a position to so anything about it."

He just sat down next to me....

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Anon2009's picture

"so I spoke up and said, "no, if he does it again, he is going to sit out a game"..."

I think dad should have been the one to do that and I say that because his dad and grandma are from a different generation and may feel that, since you aren't married to fdh yet, your opinion (in their eyes) has no weight. Even if you're raising ss and living with fdh. Do I agree with it, no, but that may be their thought process.

Ideally, grandpa would have said something to you in private. Even if you're not married to fdh yet this would have been a good time for him to help teach ss to respect you as an adult.