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"Stepmom" with Susan Sarandon and Julia Roberts?

TheOtherMom's picture

I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS. I am 31 years old and I am throwing an internal temper tantrum that would make SS9 proud.

I have to watch and analyze the movie "Stepmom" for my Sociology class. The class is Theory of Family and I love the course but GEEZ! I begged the professor to let me do anything else and he said "No, this is one of those times where you will learn more than you expected."

It's my own fault. We all had to pick a family dynamic at the beginning of the course - stepfamily, single parent family, interracial family, gay family etc. I picked Step Parent thinking "oooo, I can get loads of insight on ST."

And I have.

I can't believe that out of 30 people, I am the only stepmother There are 23 single parents. Isn't that crazy?

At any rate, I have never seen this movie but the trailer looks devastating.

Shall probably blog the damn thing on here.

Anybody seen it? Does anyone have insight?

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TinyDancer's picture

It was real enough for me. I hate that f*&^king movie. The skids Mother died less then a year after I met their father. (they had been divorced over a year when we met).
I really can't go into much detail on a public site - but that movie was just too close to home for me.

stepkate's picture

With all the work that goes into step-parenting, it doesn't surprise me that single parents outnumber the steps. Somewhere out there are 23 people who don't have to worry about a skid jumping in the bed in the middle of a make-out session.

boogeymom's picture

Mostly the movie is just cheesy and cliche I thought. Too bad you didn't go with the family dynamic of "Dealing with the Loss of a Family Member," because then you could have been watching "Ordinary People," which is a REALLY good movie (I had to do it for my Family Therapy class a few years ago). I don't know about learning more than expected, I saw that movie when I was in my late teens and I STILL didn't learn to avoid becoming a SM. Wink

iwishyouwould's picture

The first, last and only time i watched "stepmom", I was 17 - my mother, who is still married after 32 years, made me watch it with her, god only knows why. All I remember is that it was really sad - my mom cried throughout the ENTIRE movie (while very effectively downing a bottle of pinot grigio). My mother thought it was "Fabulous". I thought it was stupid. lol

sm27's picture

My iNsight on this movie is that in order for the sm to have a "sort of" happily ever after, something drastic has to happen ( don't want to mess it up for you). Also, I think it takes a lot more work to have skids love you, and Julia Roberts never really defines boundaries....

boogeymom's picture

Yeah right? I actually work MORE now that I'm a stepmom because I like being out of the house when the Skids are over! The only part of the movie I actually thought was good was when she teaches her SD what "snowblowing" is.

TheOtherMom's picture

I hate to say it but that's how I feel.
To have my happily ever after, BM has to pass away. Isn't that terrible? Something wrong inside me if that is the case. Or maybe something wrong inside her?

dguiwh2334's picture

One of my absoltue favorite movies!!! Tear jerker tho! And soooo not reality on the relationship of mom and step mom unless they were taking happy pills lol.. But a great movie I think..old one..

TheOtherMom's picture

SBS,
This is so true!
But if you watch Santa Clause, that Stepdad is not bad. Just kind of a fruitcake psychologist (by definition).

iwishyouwould's picture

I hated that movie.. the stepfather.. ugh.
I really really liked 2012, but really really hated it at the same time - they portray the stepdad as this ignoramous who no one seems to like not even his wife, the ex-wife is obviously still in love with the ex-husband, they kill off the couple who are not married (the guy with the little boys and the chick with the little dog), they kill off the stepdad and then moments after her husband (the stepdad) is horrifically and violently killed, his wife (the bm) is swapping saliva with her ex and does not mourn the loss of her husband for even a heartbeat??? ugh... it really irritated me on that level.

TheOtherMom's picture

OMG! I cried through the last 45 minutes of this movie.
Crappy script but a great concept.
I have to wonder ... I wonder if BM will ever accept that I raise the children because she didn't want them. If she would just accept this about herself then I truly think she and I could at least have an inkling of a rapport.
But I also think she is too selfish to do so.
I am too spiteful to let the little things go too ... Ugh.