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tbloanlady's picture

I am so tired of my ss14 ruling my house. He has lived here in my home that I own for 7 months. His father thinks he can do no wrong, won't punish him for anything. He is on academic probation at school & his father does nothing. He was told yesterday that because he is making bad grades at school that he was not allowed to have his cell phone or go anywhere until the grades improve. Well he still has the phone & today we were going to go fishing & he was allowed to go. Now if I ask my husband as to why he is allowed to go I will get yelled at & it will start a big argument so I decided to not go & just stay home with our daughter. I am the one being punished here, not him.

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Kes's picture

If he is on academic probation he obviously DOES do wrong, and his father is in denial. No reason for you to be, I would say. There is nothing worse than setting a punishment and not sticking to it, in terms of perpetuating the bad behaviour.

You are in a strong position to insist that things change because it is your house, and YOU and only you can chose who has the privilege of living there with you.

tbloanlady's picture

Yes, it is my house but he pays the payment. I quit my job to help him run his business. But as we speak I am filling out an application to go back to my career & I won't need him. We had a long talk last night about the events that went on Sat & Sun & I express my point about not sticking to the punishment & he said that I might be right & he said that he was going to take the phone away this morning, we will see. His father is in denial & I don't won't his kids here if there are no rules & punishment if you screw up. Just gotta go back to work & gain some independence & then he & his kids can be on their way.

Dannee's picture

Tell dad he needs to grow some BALLS...

He is putting his son in the wrong direction..

If you can not live up to the punishments as a father..
who will NO ONE!!!

your husband is a sad excuse as a husband, father and
a example to your daughter..

I would sit down and try to talk to him or I would seek outside
help..