Phones are a PRIVILEGE not a necessity!!!
So, after all the destruction SS14 has caused with his most recent lie, and the fact that DH and I went to counseling on THURSDAY after SS14 went Wednesday. Therapist agreed it was in the best interest of the family as a whole to have SS14 stay away for awhile yet. Therapist explained that SS14 is a troubled teen and has some things to work through and does need to take responsibility for his actions. Therapist stated that he needs to feel the consequences of his actions.
When our kids/skids don't do their homework, get bad grades, do something that warrants punishment, the standard is usually lose your cell phone for a week. Now, this behavior of SS occurred DUE to his cell phone usage. He isn't living in our home...he is living with grandma for a bit while we work through the situation. Grandma had SS14's cell phone at her house. DH said, "my mother will not give him his phone" So this morning, I look at our phone bill. I also check the kids' usage, as usual. SS14 has usage on his phone. Starting THURSDAY. The day DH and I went to see the therapist. Now, I sent DH a text message "why does SS14 has his phone?" DH didn't reply. This could be because he was sleeping (DH works night shift). So I look at the usage, and SS14 has been using data, and texts like crazy since getting his phone. Now, SS14 has had phone revoked for more than a week quite a few times in the past, depending on the seriousness of the behavior. In this instance, ABSOLUTELY IT REQUIRES MORE THAN A WEEK!!! I don't know that SS14 SHOULD EVER get the damn phone back! It is a privilege that his father and I pay for...and I have the right to revoke that privilege based on behavior at ANY TIME.
I am so livid! If DH gave SS14 his phone back, then he did so without even DISCUSSING it with me!!! If DH did NOT give SS14 his phone back, then MIL did!! MORE LIVID as this woman is constantly meddling and has NO RIGHT to decide when SS14 should have his phone back!!!
So I called our cell provider, and had SS14's phone put on temporary suspension. The phone is now UNUSABLE! The cost goes down to $10/month and I can keep it that way for up to 6 months. It was effective immediately. SS14 will have quite the surprise when he goes to use it and he can't. I'm not going to mention it again with DH. I will wait for DH to bring it up to me. He felt giving the kid his iphone back without discussing it with me was alright, well I think suspending his phone because I'm not paying for a selfish, unappreciative little asshole's cell phone. If DH doesn't like it, well too bad.
So much for the "I'm sorry for the way I have been lately, and for allowing this stuff to cause tension between us. I'm sorry I haven't been a very good husband, or the husband you deserve but I'm going to do my best from now on" storyline I got on Friday night!
Pissed off doesn't even begin to describe what I am feeling right now!!!!!