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Submitted by sulleneyez on Fri, 03/16/2007 - 12:59pm

well i havent really wrote a blog about whats going on in my life but a problem has come up and i dont now where to ask for a good opinion well se the problem is i droped of ss last night and bm wanted to talk and she droped a bomb on me about my b.f. mother and she is playing games on all of us so i called b.f. at work after the matter and told him how b.m wants to get together and talk about what the hell is going on he agreed to it but now he is not sure if i should be there cause the three of us have never really talked and it makes him uncomtorable which of course i understand but it upset me i deal more with b.m. than he does couse they always end up fighting and now im being put aside which im not okay with i dont want to argue with him about us but i dont feel its right and i feel i should be there because this effects me as well. should i tell him to get over the fact he feels uncomtorable or just step aside and i need help a.s.a.p. she wants to talk today.

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Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 03/16/2007 - 1:50pm

You have every right to be there. I understand it is uncomfortable for your husband...it is probably uncomfortable for you. All three of you are joined forever, whether you like it or not. It is best to include everyone whenever possible. I would tell him that it is very important to you that you are there and that you understand his feeling uncomfortable. You also feel uncomfortable but know that the benefit outweighs the cost. The more you do together, the easier it is and the better your relationship will be.

Not sure if that helps or if it was in time but good luck with whatever happens!

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Submitted by happy on Fri, 03/16/2007 - 1:52pm

Ask him that first. After he states his case to you, then try to put yourself in his shoes. Although I am not sure if I believe all that stuff about being uncomfortable, if a person is truly over someone there is not reason to feel uncomfortable. So I think since you are talking to the BM on a more regular basis then you should be there. You said they fight when the speak maybe with you there you can be the mediator. I would also state your feelings to him on the issue.
Good luck..
Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..