I'm just so tired.
Today, DH called BM to inform her that SS8 needed to move back with her because I can no longer handle him while DH is at work. BM informed us that she has to work something out because she and her whatever he is are living with someone and neither of them has jobs. DH is fully confident that things are going to work out. Does anyone else get the feeling that in a few months I'll be trapped taking care of SS again? I honestly feel like I am having a nervous breakdown. I cannot handle SS and his behavior for one more day. DH and I got into a bad argument over it. I literally feel like laying on the floor and kicking and screaming at the top of my lungs. Why am I the bad person? I was the only person to step up for this child and try to take care of him. BM doesn't do shit and everyone's okay with it. I physically and mentally cannot care for SS and that's a problem. I already said I would leave several times but honestly I'm terrified of starting over. I've been a SAHM for the past 6yrs. SS will be back from his summer visit with MIL in 3 weeks. I just can't figure out if I should leave before he gets back or wait and see how things go.
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I often wonder what these men
I often wonder what these men did before their partners came along. How did your H look after his son before you. I realise he supports you and this allows you to be a SAHM but you cannot look after this little boy.
Have you tried talking to your H about an after care for SS? Regular visits to granny? I'm reading so many posts on here lately about leaving your spouses. Try exhaust other options before calling it a day.
Sending you lots of hugs and light.
Most were still so enmeshed
Most were still so enmeshed with their ex's that they were living pseudo married lives, just in separate houses. That is what my husband did anyway, and he had full custody of SD, but BM would watch SD every day at his house or would take her to day care for him while he was at work.
I agree with Tommar. Getting
I agree with Tommar. Getting a job may be the best solution.
You can't force a deadbeat to parent. He sure can't force BM to take custody of the kid. The only options may be daycare/after school programs and/or for dad to change his work hours. No working weekends. No withing late nights.
I really like the idea of
I really like the idea of taking a trip when SS gets back from MIL's then DH has to figure out how to handle things on his own. We have 4 children between us so at this point daycare would cost more than what I would make at a job. SSstb9 is having outrageous behavior. He's left the house twice in the middle of the night. He steals money from everyone, he's been caught shoplifting, he wrote a very descriptive letter to a child at school detailing how he would chop off his balls and kill him, and he also made my DD drink his urine. I keep telling DH that he might need to consider having SS admitted to somewhere that helps children like him. Counseling once a month is not helping at all. He honestly needs to be watched 24/7 and a lot more counseling.
Are your bio kids his
Are your bio kids his kids?
If not, then daycare/summer camp/after school care is an option for SS.
Why are you keeping your kids in a home with a kid who forced your child to drink urine???? If someone calls CPS, you run the risk of having your kuds pulled from your home.
You cannot be "trapped" into
You cannot be "trapped" into taking care of your SS, if you end up taking care of him, it's because you agreed to.
No is a complete sentence. Just say NO.