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The Golden Uterus - I think I can spot one in the making!

Storm76's picture

I was introduced to the concept of the golden uterus on here, and as I'm in the slightly surreal situation of knowing 5 people who are pregnant at the moment I think I've spotted a G.U. in the making! Just to be clear, of these women, all of them have a partner they live with & currently work, but none of the couples are particularly well off.

4 of these women are talking about cutting back on Xmas this year as they need to save money for the baby, 1 is talking about expecting a lavish gift from her husband as it's their first as a married couple.

4 are comparing prices online, asking for bits on Freecycle, debating whether their due dates are far enough apart to maybe share some clothes etc, 1 is constantly updating Facebook with what she's bought now for the baby & it's all brand new, top of the line stuff.

4 are getting on with the pregnancy pretty matter of factly (including one who's taken a year to get pregnant through IVF having previously been trying for about 3 years!), 1 keeps on insisting her husband drives her to A&E to get checked out because 'it doesn't feel right' to be told there's no probelm & she's wasting they're time.

4 are worried about managing financially when the baby comes, whether going back to work will be worth it once she's paid for childcare, 1 is firmly saying that she's going to be a SAHM (even though her husband doesn't earn that much)

I have a feeling that this is how Golden Uterus Syndrome may start - despite the fact that there are 4 other people pregnant, she is fairly dismissive of other's experiences & keeps telling anyone who will listen about the specialness of her baby (constantly referred to as Prince or Princess) :sick:

Now, I'm sure that all these women feel the specialness of their baby, but they don't expect the rest of the world to feel that way!

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katherz's picture

Golden Uterus.....I just crack up whenever I hear that. Biggrin

*Katherz*
Finish each day and be done with it.You have done what you could.Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can.Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

I may get slammed for this but whatever... Just over 17 years ago I gave birth to a perfect baby boy and he is now my perfectson17 and frankly, because of that, I, also, had a golden uterus. So there. I said it.

SmileForMe's picture

I am also a card carrying member of the golden uterus club...

"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it." *Anais Nin*

Storm76's picture

Ah, but do you feel entitled to not work for the rest of your life and be given as much as you could possible desire for ever from the father of perfectson? I'm guessing not, so sorry, you're not a golden uterus WSM in my book!

SmileForMe's picture

Man I just can't get into ANY of the good clubs! not even the golden uterus one...darn it!! Blum 3

"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it." *Anais Nin*

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

Nah, the only feeling of entitlement I have is that "I" know what's best for perfectson and "I" get to make the rules for him. Other than that, I get off my ass every day and commute an hour each way to work! Biggrin Father of perfectson is a great guy, he's dumb as a box of rocks, but he'd do about anything I asked of him, as long as it didn't involve much money! LOL!!

And actually, since I've had a hysterectomy, my golden uterus was taken away.... Wink

stepoff's picture

OMG, well, the ones who are being realistic about their pregnancies, their situations, their finances, these are the women who will fare much better when the baby arrives. The one who is 'expecting' (and I'm not talking about the baby), is going to have a harder time adjusting when the baby finally arrives. Sounds like she's probably younger and part of the 'me-generation' perhaps? Is this her first baby?

Yep, when a baby's due to arrive, adjusting priorities is number 1. Cutting back now will make their future so much easier. However I, too, had to weigh going back to work and paying for childcare vs. staying at home. I was making a good salary, but would you believe that daycare would have taken HALF of mysalary off the top!!! That, combined with the other expenses of working, I would have been working for 25% of my pay and travelling 50% of the time. LOL! Hardly worth it. And with 2 kids, fahgedabadit!

The one who is expecting a lavish gift, is paranoid about the pregnancy, purchases the biggest and best, is well on her way to creating yet ANOTHER spoiled rotten skid for another woman to have to deal with in a few years. Tisk, tisk. It's a shame. GU Syndrome for sure.

katherz's picture

I also had a DD, so maybe I have a Golden Uterus too!! Because of that, can I go out and by a new pair of Prada shoes? Ooh, Ooh, how about a $300 haircut? Nope, I'm thinking maybe we'll get a deluxe frozen pizza today instead of a tombstone!! Biggrin

Seriously, you two ladies, and myself included, and all the normal Bio + Step's on here don't qualify as what she means as the Golden Uterus!

Smile

*Katherz*
Finish each day and be done with it.You have done what you could.Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can.Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

SmileForMe's picture

I'd never do a $300 haircut...and I DO own nice shoes but that's only bc shoes are the only thing I really treat myself to probably once a year.

*hopeful* maybe I'm not a golden uterus afterall...

"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it." *Anais Nin*

SmileForMe's picture

This is from goldenuterus.wordpress.com I thought it really applied to this blog and wanted to share...

Definition of a “Golden Uterus”:

A woman who operates under the false belief that by virtue of giving birth to you, your children, or your husband’s children, she has veto power over any and all decisions based on nothing more than what she dictates as being “for the sake of the children”.

Definition of “For the Sake of the Children”:

A phrase used by a woman who has given birth, to get what she wants, regardless of, and sometimes intentionally to, hurt, annoy, guilt and/or pain another person in some way.

Examples of “Golden Uterus Syndrome”:

Middle of the night phonecalls to the exhusband to discuss the children’s soccer practice next month.

Repeating the phrase “My boyfriend knows you and I will always be married in the eyes of God”.

Waking the children up to talk because ”it’s lonely at night.”

Telling an eight year old boy “I guess you are the man of the house now”.

Driving a range rover through your gated community, triple soy, grande, skinny mochachino in hand, while letting the children overhear the conversation on your new *Iphone with your BFF about how “he left you destitute.”

Being over the age of 25 and refering to anyone as “your BFF.”

"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it." *Anais Nin*

Storm76's picture

lol!

"for the sake of the children" = "what I want, regardless of the kids" though!

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

{A woman who operates under the false belief that by virtue of giving birth to you, your children, or your husband’s children, she has veto power over any and all decisions based on nothing more than what she dictates as being “for the sake of the children”.}

****Nope, not a false belief, because "I" as perfectson's mother, do have veto power over anyone else, including EH**

Definition of “For the Sake of the Children”:

A phrase used by a woman who has given birth, to get what she wants, regardless of, and sometimes intentionally to, hurt, annoy, guilt and/or pain another person in some way.

****I've done that, I admit it.

Examples of “Golden Uterus Syndrome”:
Middle of the night phonecalls to the exhusband to discuss the children’s soccer practice next month.

****I've done that too.

Repeating the phrase “My boyfriend knows you and I will always be married in the eyes of God”.

****Nope, not that one

Waking the children up to talk because ”it’s lonely at night.”
Telling an eight year old boy “I guess you are the man of the house now”.
Driving a range rover through your gated community, triple soy, grande, skinny mochachino in hand, while letting the children overhear the conversation on your new *Iphone with your BFF about how “he left you destitute.”

****Not those either

Being over the age of 25 and refering to anyone as “your BFF.”

****I'm 38 and yes I have a BFF, bite me. Wink

buttercup123's picture

I think it's so retarded when people have to have have the best and most expensive clothes for babies and growing kids. In Canada we have Joe Freshstyle and Wal Mart that have perfectly good clothes for kids. And we give our hand me downs and take hand me downs from friends. It just makes sense. I'd rather put extra cash away for the kids to go to university than spend it on clothes. My stepkids always look great BTW!!