Mealtime woes. One step forward one step back...
Is there an order of who's served first in a family that makes proper sense?
Is there an age at which kids should definitely be served their food ahead of adults (babies)? If so is there an age at which this is no longer appropriate?
I'm the primary person buying the food for dinner time, meal planning, and 90% or more of the prep and cooking for most meals. DH helps a few days per week, but like most women this seems to fall mostly on me.
On Tuesday this week I got both our little ones (ages 3 and 20 months) ready for school and off to daycare, worked 6 hours, got food for dinner and then picked up SD9 at her school at 4pm, then went to get the other two, came home by 430 and prepped homemade meatloaf and roasted veggies for dinner while the kids ran around like wild Banshees underfoot.
When DH came home at 5 I gave him the meal on trays to put in the oven because I was taking SD to gymnastics at 530 and heading out for a run. On Tuesday and Thursday she has gymnastics 530-630, so the 3 of us usually eat after she gets home at 645. Lately he and I have been mixing up who takes her and who stays with the other 2. So on Tuesday it was his job to put the food into the preheated oven and let it cook for 45 minutes, and take care of the littles until I got back with Sd.
As any parent of a toddler knows, ours turn into gremlins if they don't eat dinner by 530. So the person at home with them has to get some dinner into them. He did.
But when SD and I came back at 645 he acted like he had slaved away on dinner. He made sure to serve us out plates. He alwayd serves SD first in this context. Like, because? Is she dying of low blood sugar and needs the food in her right this second? I mean, he did this when she was 4 too, and it made sense to me then. She's almost 10. She didn't help make dinner- and he didn't either for that matter! He proceeded to sit down last and eat and midway through the meal commented how perfectly he had cooked the veggies. Never thanked me or mentioned any of my contributions to the day whatsoever.
This is why we're in counseling. But I guess I'm tired of being given a plate by my husband, and always 2nd in line to princess SD.
I cooked. Shouldn't I get to serve myself first? Or am I overthinking this?