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6th week

Stepmommommy's picture

Today would be the 6th week BM hasn't picked up her daughter. This past weekend, I visited my uncle who lives in the same town as her and I told DH to tell her I wouldn't mind bringing SD to her for that weekend. And she was so grateful to me. Yet for the past 5 years of my SD life she tries to say that I'm trying to take her place that I don't encourage her relationship with her daughter that I talk crap about her to SD. If that were true, I wouldn't have taken her there. I know SD loves her mom. I know she's her mom and I have nothing against that. But if she's in my care, I'm going to love her like my own. I love all SD friends like their my own so I'm not going to treat SD any different because her mom doesn't like it. But now I'm the good guy. Hopefully she sees now that no I'm not trying to take her place, I'm just trying to make her life stable and loving. Anyway she had fun with her mom but she told me she doesn't want to do that LONGGGGG ride anymore and she wishes her mom would just come to our town to visit lol.

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Maxwell09's picture

sueu2's right. The second BMs mood shifts you will be persona non grata again. It doesn't matter how much good you do, you will either be seen as overstepping or be used as a nanny/cab service.

Stepmommommy's picture

I believe it. I think the main reason for this post was for you guys. I know this BM too well and don't believe she will ever realize or appreciate anything I do. But I have been attacked on this site and everywhere by other SMs or BMs saying I overstep and I'm not her mother and SD will never love me and etc. it's just sad that is SMs get attacked by other SMs sometimes when we really need to support each other because being a step mom is hard stuff!
But yeah. I expect nothing from that girl.

Indigo's picture

Kudos to you. Pat yourself on the back for acting as a caring, loving SM.

Let that thought settle a bit before you get hit with the other shoe. Wink

Stepmommommy's picture

Lmao. I try. Not looking forward to that other shoe which I am just waiting for.

fakemommy's picture

So now next time you can't drive SD and she can get her it'll be all your fault and you are the bad guy once again.