Update on SS in juvie
He wrote DH a letter pretty much apologizing for his bad behavior but said he attempted to molest my kids (his half siblings) so he could get sent back to BM. :jawdrop:
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He wrote DH a letter pretty much apologizing for his bad behavior but said he attempted to molest my kids (his half siblings) so he could get sent back to BM. :jawdrop:
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Shut the front door! This
Shut the front door! This makes me think he needs even more help than before. What kind of kid will go to molestation as a form of manipulations? My God, I would send him back to BM with a bottle of wine.
DH is pissed!!!! He wants
DH is pissed!!!! He wants nothing to do with him.
Just write him off and let
Just write him off and let him rot in juvie. Anyone that EVER considers molesting children would be a non-entity to me FOREVER.
There are somethings that are truly unforgivable. Child molesters do not EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER get a second chance.
SS is getting his wish and
SS is getting his wish and will be going back to BM but it'll be after juvie it makes me sick he's getting what he wants and my kids are victims who have to go to counseling for this
And out will trot the usual
And out will trot the usual suspects telling you that you can't tell your DH that his kid can't come over and if you don't let pervie into the marital house it will be your fault when he leaves you. In three...two....one...
DH is pissed he's done with
DH is pissed he's done with SS
Wtf?!? If your husband
Wtf?!?
If your husband doesn't let the kid rot in there and understand he's never to be anywhere near your home or children ever, ever again then he's got some serious screws loose!
So sorry you're dealing with this. Change your locks, change your phone numbers and try to forget that little scumbag exists!
DH wants nothing to do with
DH wants nothing to do with SS he doesn't want to talk to him ever again let alone see him ever again
Well tomorrow I'm calling the
Well tomorrow I'm calling the non emergency line and letting them know I need to speak with the officer who came out and is over the case. I wonder what the judge will say when she finds out about this.
I'm not telling my husband
I'm not telling my husband how to feel about his son he can feel any way he wants to about him. I personally hate him and I unfortunately have a feeling he will reoffend because he doesn't understand how serious this is and neither does his mom.
I think that's where the
I think that's where the specialized offender treatment might need to happen. To help him understand the gravity of his actions.
I'm confused why his mom
I'm confused why his mom doesn't think this is serious? How old are your children? He was caught molesting them right? Who caught them? I would have killed him! You stay strong and take care of your children.
SS is 14 my kids are 8 7 and
SS is 14 my kids are 8 7 and 4. I honestly think his mom knew of this problem and that's why she was so quick to give him to us because he has 2 sisters from his mom that he was living with. She acts like this isn't a big deal which pisses me off.
She asked for him to come
She asked for him to come back to her
You can still love your child
You can still love your child but understand that they are broken and get them help. You can love your child and still make sure that they are never ever around children again.
You can love your child as he's killing you, but you have to understand that if he's killing you, You have failed as a parent.
I think in this case DH has realized that he has no power to help this child and he has to give him up and walk away. BM is downplaying it and that isn't good for anyone involved. There comes a time when you have to decide if this one child is worth sacrificing so many other lives for.
I think you're right
I think you're right
"but you have to understand
"but you have to understand that if he's killing you, You have failed as a parent."
I completely disagree with this. At some point in time, a child becomes responsible for their own actions and choices. To lay that shit on "parenting" is just wrong.
DH really tried to be in SS's
DH really tried to be in SS's life but BM moved to another state now she's back in our state but is nonchalant about what is going on
I guess it depends on the age
I guess it depends on the age of the child.
I stand by the statement though. If your child is killing you, you have failed to see, or simply ignored a mental problem and you didn't get treatment for the child.
In the cases that I've seen where kids have killed their parents for money, there have been a host of problems that were never dealt with when they were young. We see it here all the time, the entitlement, the glossing over of bad behaviour, the blindness suffered by some parents who refuse to see that their little prince/princess is a greedy nasty person.
I understand that lots of parents are handcuffed by the other parent. They try to raise a normal person they are undermined at every turn, even in intact families.
In the end, I still say that if your child is an actual killer, you have failed as a parent.
I messaged you on why
I messaged you on why
NO WAY. There are many more
NO WAY. There are many more LESS disturbing and twisted things he could have done to "get sent back to BM's". Get caught stealing, ditch class, get in a fight. But molesting your siblings, that takes a SICK person.
It is really irritating that
It is really irritating that after he gets out of juvie he goes back to BM but good riddance I have my kids I have to take care of
Where else would he go?
Where else would he go? Certainly you don't want him back in your home with your kids...? ???
He should stay in juvie until
He should stay in juvie until he's 18. And then he should have to register as a sex offender and no one HAS to take him back in. Maybe he should go from juvie to jail. Was he charged with anything?
That's so horrible for your
That's so horrible for your children. Hugs to you and yours.