My SO has mediation with Crazy today and I am super anxious. She filed for 50/50, and after fully planning on fighting her on it, she has made our life such a nightmare the past few months he is tired and it sucked all the fight out of him, so he grudgingly decided to just agree to it. Really, the chances of him retaining the placement he has now (67%) are so slim, fighting it would just be dragging out the inevitable. Yes she is batshit crazy, but she has an apt! And can provide food! And really that's all that seems to matter these days. The Guardian ad Litem told him 2 years ago that if she could maintain those things, and get skids to school on her days, that she would be able to have more custody. Skids want 50/50. I secretly want 50/50. He's sick of fighting a losing fight. I don't blame him, it has been exhausting. Is it in the best interest of skids? Probably not, but again, that doesn't seem to matter to the courts, as long as basic needs are met.
The night before skids went to Crazy's, we were watching TV and at 8:40pm SS13 says he's going to bed. He goes into the bathroom and comes back out and says "my throat is pretty red, I should go to Urgent care". I thought he was joking, but no, he's serious because that psycho takes skids to Urgent care for every. single. thing. My SO said, "what? I'm not taking you to urgent care, this isn't your mom's house". He looked at SS's throat and it wasn't even red, he asked SS if it even hurt and SS said "a little". *rolls eyes* Even so, you wait until 8:40pm to say anything? My SO gave him some ibuprofin and throat spray and sent him to bed. Imagine all the extra urgent care trips she can make having them 50% of the time!
Also, we moved out of our rental house into the house we just bought. The rental house is owned by relatives of my SO's- they put it up for sale as soon as they found out we were moving. Crazy used to live there too, before me (soo happy to be out of that place!). Apparently she decided she hated the landlord, an older lady, and started a very combative relationship with her that involved yelling, phone calls, the whole 9 while they lived there. They almost kicked her out. She also did the same with all of my SO's family, skids teachers...basically everyone. Come to find out that a few weeks ago, Crazy had SS13 message the landlord asking if they were planning on renting the house out again. Landlord asked why? SS eventually admitted that his mom was interested in renting it. Ha! Landlord told SS they don't plan on renting it unless it doesn't sell in 6 months, and even then it would have to be someone very responsible (read: NOT Crazy). The landlord told my SO about this, and said there is no way in hell they would ever rent that house to her, and they couldn't believe she had the nerve to even ask. A few days later, a neighbor of the old house (we talk to most of the neighbors) runs into Crazy at the Dr's office. He's a nice, elderly man. He said hi to her and she told him she may be moving into our old house soon. LOL! Old neighbor saw my SO the next day and relayed that conversation to him, and we both had a good laugh at what kind of psycho would think she could (or would even want to) move into the house she/we used to live in (and she HATED living there!), after being such a complete b*tch to the landlords! My SO honestly doesn't even think she remembers how she acted, and she thinks the landlords should rent to her. Plus, the landlords never even told her it was a possiblity, yet she's going around telling people she may be moving in, even though the house is very clearly for sale and not rent? Good grief.
Anyway, my SO is not that optimistic that they are going to walk away from mediation with an agreement today, because they are incapable of being in a room and having a decent conversation. But we did come up with a list of some additional communication rules that he can hold her accountable for if she breaks them, like calling us names, trash-talking us on OFW, etc. I encouraged him to put 50/50 for things like paying for field trips, and next year she should pay for SS's school (he pays for both of their private school now), but he is sooo afraid if he asks for that stuff that child support will go back and take his O/T into consideration (they didn't last time, and he makes a ton in O/T annually), that he doesn't want to ask for that. Which drives me insane, because why should he cover all of those costs?? He is convinced that's the way Child support works- if you ask for more things to be split 50/50, they will include your overtime into their calculation. I don't know how it works, but it seems weird that they wouldn't before, but now all of a sudden they would if she asks for 50/50 and he expects her to pay 50/50 as well? Fingers crossed he comes out of this without paying more than he already does to this psycopath. She got a raise and he started paying all of the insurance since it was last decided- hopefully it balances out.
Back to daydreaming about every-other-week being skid-free. *dance4*