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I dread when my step-kids come over!

Spunkee2019's picture

I don't even know where to start! I met the love of my life through my job and we have been on a cloud nine since we met four years ago. We got married 2019! He does have 5 children from previous relationships. I love the eldest children dearly and the relationship with their mothers are great, but the youngest two's mother is the spawn of satan. She's his ex-wife. This crazy heffa already has a gun charge for pulling a gun on a young lady prior to us getting together and his oldest child didnt know my H wasnt his bio dad until she got crazy and called him on the phone telling him he wasnt his real dad and to go find his real father! This was prior to us getting together but still it provides some back story on how delusional this woman is. Fast- forward to our relationship... Once she found out about us, i started receiving messed up text and emails from her. She even made a fake instagram page talking crap about my own child because he has aspergers. That sent me over the edge! This woman has sent nude pictures to my husbands mother... and then pulled another gun on him as he came home from work one day! She got a measly one year probation for all this! and continues trying to make his life HELL. I dread when his youngest kids come over! His son and my son are the same age but this kid is unruly, rude, and tries to bully my child! It drives me crazy! and I cant help the resentment i feel towards them because their mom is a straight up psychopath! The youngest is a little girl that he doesnt even know is his because the courts are dragging their feet with the DNA test, yet he was hit with a $20,000 bill for child support for her and of course the ex wife took that and ran with it! I really dread when they come over and i feel bad for having so much anger and resentment in my heart. She has lied and said one of his older children molested the younger ones.... She has threatened to call CPS on us for that and I hate when they come over because I dont know what other crazy crap will come out her mouth with them there. She does nothing but sit on her butt, getting child support and refusing to work. All while playing on every ones phone, including his childrens phone telling them they should have died. The younger kids are 7 & 3... and I dont think I can deal with this drama forever. Especially since we are planning our own this upcoming year. Am I wrong for HATING when they come over? Sorry for this being all over the place.

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Rumplestiltskin's picture

I don't know, but it sounds like there is a metric sh!t-ton of drama in your boyfriend's life. Now, some of it may be that he's an innocent victim, but i hope you do what i didn't know to do - look at your boyfriend for signs that he enjoys drama (either consciously or subconsciously) and conducts his life in a way that makes things more complicated and dramatic vs less.

ETA just saw you are married. Please ensure that you and your husband set boundaries to minimize the effects of his baggage in your life.