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I’m Baaaack (VENTING)

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Submitted by SloaneMichael on Sun, 05/15/2022 - 1:05pm

Hello everyone! It's been a while. I am currently planning to leave, but it doesn't mean that things aren't annoying me on the way out.

SD woke up and asked everyone if we wanted to go to Universal Studios. Meaning, "I want to go to Universal Studios, please take me and buy me an Express Pass and a bunch of junk." As if she is paying for this trip, and as if she is the only person in the household. 

...and of course, DH, who has GPS from being away this week, is happy to oblige.  DH then asks me if I want to go, like I'm another child in the household.

Just annoyed, and just another sign that I'm making the right decision.

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Submitted by Noway2b1 on Mon, 05/16/2022 - 8:12am

In a real partnership the conversation goes like this; SD "can we go to universal studios today?" Bio parent " well let me and Sloane have a chat and see what plans are in the works" then a really good parent if it's not convenient to go THAT weekend then has a teaching moment about planning and consideration of others and their plans. Then make a forward looking plan to go.
 

Yes you are making the right decision, these patterns  are difficult to break. I would know because I'm dealing with the reamergence of them 7 years into my life with my partner. Even though HE is aware it's hard to break enmeshment, which I've now realized is sometimes stronger with just one member than the others. 

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Submitted by SloaneMichael on Mon, 05/16/2022 - 3:50pm

It's so complicated. I went through the logistics of all of it yesterday with my mother and it's like a Mission Impossible episode.  That's said, ETA is end of year for step 2, 1 and 1/2 months for Step 1.