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FDH continues to get mad at BM

SisterNeko's picture

Even though I continue to warn him because sadly I haven't known her as long as he has, I seem to have the women figured out, while he on the other hand continues to be 'blind sided' when she does stupid things. I just expect her to do stupid things.

A few examples...

#1 - Last weekend BM asked if she could have the kids for a few hours Saturday (even though it was our weekend to have them) so they could go to her husband's family christmas. FDH said yes because he would hope she would do that same thing for us (don't bank on it). I was going out of town that weekend with FMIL so i said it was up to him what he did. The party was from 2 until 6. I also warned him that BM would be late as usual and she would feed them fast food. He said no they were going to a party.

So FDH txt me Saturday night mad as hell. BM was late picking them up didn't get them until almost 3. Then SS6 told him that they left the party because SS4 got fussy (yes she treats him like a baby) so they left, went to McD's and then to BM's house to eat (because she can't handle them in public). And she dropped them off a little after 5. FDH made himself a pizza but had to make another one when the boys ate half of it because they were still hungry. I just txt'ed back 'told you so'

#2 - SS4 had doctor appointment in Sept. BM changed everything so that FDH didn't even get a copy of the bill. When he asked her for one she just gave him the first page and told him that he owed her half of the $200 bill. So he wrote HER a check for $100. (yeah I know I am sure you guys see where this is going) and she added that the test all came back fine.

So I told FDH if it were me I would call the doctor and at least make sure that they bill BOTH insurance companies, because $200 with 2 insurances seems odd. So he called. Now he is pissed because she removed his name completely form their files. When talking about the amount that was owed they said a bill was going out for $40 bucks due in Nov. The lady asked if he wanted a copy of all future bill - yes please. and the RESULTS! They also weren't sure if they had billed both insurance companies or if a payment had even been made. The lady told him to give her a week and call back. His check on the other hand HAD cleared. I just said why did you p=make it out to her?

#3 - BM txt'ed him this week because they were christmas shopping and it is in their CO that the other parent 'help' them get a gift for the other. stupidest thing he ever signed I swear. but she wanted to know if SS6 should get ME a video game or a CAT! Yes a live cat.

First of all I don't want anything from her and the last insulting 'gift' she gave me was returned to her in pieces. Smile I had a PMS moment. FDH doesn't buy anything for her husband - never has and they started dating right after the divorce, so it's been awhile. But that aside - who buys some one else a cat? He txt'ed her back and just said 'no cat' to which she explained that it would have been a gift certificate to the shelter so I could pick out my own. We have 2 cats already and him and I have agreed no more unless one dies. He was again blind sided that she wanted to get me a gift but she did last year and I figured she would this year because she is stupid like that. I think I lucked out when she forgot about my birthday Smile

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DeeDeeTX's picture

My DH constantly overestimates BM too and when I asked him why he said otherwise he would have to admit his kids live with a crazy person. :O

Totalybogus's picture

I think good people try to see the good in other people. Unfortunately, more often than not, they wind up getting the shitty end of the stick.

Nasty people usually get what's coming to them in the end.

Your STBH just needs to make sure he pays his portion of the uninsured benefits AFTER he receives both EOBs from BM. AND if he is doing her a favor by making the kids available to her during his time, he should have a cut off on how long he will wait for her. If she's not there within that time, then she doesn't get the kids. A few times doing that and I bet she cuts the crap.

SisterNeko's picture

I agree on all accounts.

As for what is coming to her - I do wonder what BM's new husband (of less than 3 months) had to be thinking when his wife left after what had to have less than an hour with his family for their christmas party. SS6 didn't say anything about him leaving with them. Which that is none of my business and I guess it's completely normal for her to do that. When FDH told me I was shocked and I turned to my future Sister-in-Law (his brother's wife) in shock and she said said, yeah she did that a lot when they were married. If the kids got even a little fussy they left.

Me on the other hand - we took SS4 to a family function when he was sick and we gave him meds and he ran around for awhile, when he got fussy we put a blanket down and he fell asleep in the shade.