It drives me nuts that BM treats me like her own personal Nanny, just there to take care of the kids when she is not around and she micromanages me like I work for her or something.

It's EOW custody, on her weeks we rarely hear a peep from her. I am a SAHM by choice and I understand as such it's my 'job' to take care of the kids and our house. I enjoy it accept for all the txt's, emails and sometimes phone calls from BM, yet everything is one a need to know basis with her. Anything that happens on her weeks DH and I don't need to know but on our weeks she keeps careful track of what is going on, with school, doctor's, even our own plans to a point.

At drop offs she tells me their school schedule - which I have a copy of the calender of on the frig. If the kids get sick at school she calls me to go get them on our weeks instead of having the school call DH. If school is canceled she txts me even though DH gets the same automated message. If she thinks the kids need something she brings it over to me or if they are sick she offers to bring me stuff.

she has even tried to find me a job. Used to invite me over for social stuff, until I told her off on that one.

I get that they are her 'babies' but it's not like I don't take care of them, hell I do a better job than she does. She drops them off over tired, broke out (eczema), cranky, high on sugar and dressed in clothes that don't fit. With DH and I trying for a baby i worry that she might over step herself.

On her weeks I don't exist yet the kids usually end up at day care or her mom's.

I just feel like she is using me, like having a step-mom is god gift to her so that she doesn't have to do all the work but can still dictate how it SHOULD be done. I don't think she wants to be a full-time mom and she has whined to me before how 'hard' it is with the boys. I really don't have any problems with them.