Anyone else feel like the House Elf? (Rant)

I feel that I'm coming to the end of my patience this weekend. I've been a reluctant (massively so) stepmother - even to the point of not wanting to recognise the title to the children - for just over 3 months.

Moving countries, after having several hitches after getting married to my wife in the UK, where I had a decent job, but she couldn't move there because of the two brats - SD12 (a little b*&%$* miniwife) and SS11 (tolerable mostly, but whiney and incontinent).

Suddenly, with delays in application for Visa's, wife's lack of getting promised employment, I am now a miserable housewife and 4 days a week babysitter of brats, but really it's full-time, because their BM, my wife, doesn't really engage with them, so they whine at me.

If I don't wash up, it doesn't get done. If I don't do the laundry, it doesn't get done. Likewise for everything else in the house.

I want to live in a nice house. The skids are terrible at being asked to do anything, because they've been brought up to do nothing. The bed-wetting and pooping are really getting me down.
The harassment of taking away SS11's electronic stuff is awful. He is even more obnoxious than usual and I'm the one that has to deal with it, but I'm sticking to it, because I can be a real b8tch too.

This weekend, BD had promised to take them on Sunday and Monday. In the end, he kept them for less than 24 hours. It was the only thing that had been getting me through the week.
I told wife to keep the kids OUT of the bedroom when she got back because, frankly, I have my period and am likely to maim or destroy. SD12 bounces in as soon as she got back, because she needs to be the number one focus in everyone's life, and SS11 had a visit from a neighbour, and when I say "Didn't your mother tell you I didn't want to be disturbed?" shrugged her arms and came in closer. I responded that "I don't want you in my room" She slammed the door shut in a huff.

I really want to leave. The weekend I was looking forward to has been robbed and I'm sick of living in a sh*thole if I don't do the work.

Being stuck in a foreign country with no friends, no car and no job, being a f*cking childminder.....I hate it.

I want lasers for eyes for my Birthday this year. And LOTS of gin.

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I just had the horrible

I just had the horrible (obvious) realisation that SD12 is going to be in my life until I die, and it sets me off crying, just thinking about it. I don't think I am in it for the long haul. It's just not worth it. You are right.
Thank you for the helpful suggestions.

SD12 made a HUGE effort to be

SD12 made a HUGE effort to be nice to me tonight - and it really helped. That and a couple of glasses of excellent wine. SS11 gave me lots of hugs and sat on my knee (when he hadn't had any accidents) for cuddles. I wish they were like this more often....AND the wife did the dishes. :jawdrop:

....I think they realised I was on the ledge....

I'm seriously considering

I'm seriously considering shipping out. My application to stay is in, but the chances of it being accepted are low, because wife only has a part-time job at the minute (which she threatened to leave this morning, because she hates it so much - whilst not looking for alternative employment on her days off)....I'm seriously doubting *everything* at the minute.

I hope that the Visa is refused, then I can go home and wipe the slate clean. I can't sort her out. This entire household is a mess and I'm not here to clean all the messes that she has created. She has lied to me about all sorts of things and I have tried my hardest, but I just want out. She has raised slobs because she is one. Her own mother despairs of her.

I just don't love her enough for this sh*t.

Thank you, Jasper, Sally, LadyFace and Danielle. Honestly, this is the only place I can talk about it. I'm so grateful for you all.