Sucks, doesn't it? I'm sorry. Just be there and be strong. Maybe one of these days, when HER child breaks HER heart, she'll finally get it. It'll happen sooner or later. Sometimes it takes being a parent to really understand the importance of that connection with your own parents. Advise your hubby that all relationships have ebbs and flows. Tell him to enjoy what he gets from her while he's getting it and to understand that it's okay to live the rest of his life happily and without guilt when she's being a PITA. She's an adult. This is her choice, not his failure.

♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

Kids bio and step can really hurt your heart sometimes. Georga is right, SD is an adult and as painful as this is for DH it is not something for him to carry. I was raised to respect my parents even if they made mistakes, which they did but I still love them and they are a part of my life and my children's lives. I hope your grown SD does some growing up herself.

~Evil

If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. ~Abigail Van Buren