You are here

Big family talk last night

Sherrylyn's picture

HooBoy, that was nuts. My husband does this occasionally, sits eveyone down and picks at topics that you thought were okay. The things that my husband had for me was about stepson's (17) moblie phone and girlfriend (14). Ugh.

Stepson's (19) birthday celebration was a meal out at a local restaurant. Stepson (17) said that his assignment that was due the next day had to be completed and he couldn't take 1 1/4 hour away. We said okay and went out. The next day my husband and I told him that if he was on the mobile for more than 30 min he would lose it for a month. Well he lost it, and it's boo hoo's all over the place. My husband want to cave already.

Matter of fact he got the mobile on the sly with the help of big brother against our wishes. When we found out my husband said he could keep it, but his marks can't take a huge slide because he's trying to get a scholarship to university. His marks have been sliding, but he's still just makes it onto honour roll. He on average spends 35 hours a month on the mobile. What does he spend on working on his physics or calculus work which are his most challenging classes? I couldn't tell you because he doesn't bring any of it home.

Since he got the mobile we don't havr the chance to get to know her. Her parents thinks she's old enough to date but not old enough to take the bus. When she comes here they want us to drive her home. It's an hour round trip at near highway speeds. After 4 times we said we're not doing this every week. Stepson (17) has been miserable since. She doesn't come here since early February when he punched a hole in the wall because he didn't get his way. I took her directly home, and told stepson (17) he wasn't doing anything social until it was repaired.

You should have seen me hold my ground.

Comments

happy mom's picture

If I was in the situation, I would punish 17 Stepson for being out of control, punching hole in the wall? As long as he is under your roof, he needs to follow the rules and stop the bad attitude. I won't stand for it if my daugther or stepson ever did that to us. Be strict w/discipline while they are living at your house, to me it's the only way to keep them in line. I mean who is the boss here. But be fair also, he needs to show that he is a responsible person.

Sherrylyn's picture

I thought it was out of control too, and get this he was considering punching me when he chose to punch the wall. I told him that I would have called the police and have him removed if he struck me. He could have said goodbye to girlfriend, the job with girlfriends father, and cadets where he also sees her. He repaired the hole within 2 days, and also purchased a small painting to hang over the repair job because he was unsure of his paint job.

I hold a strict line around her. You know, I'm the ogre around here and I'm quite comfortable with it. As matter of fact when I volunteered with Scouts Canada I was known as Scouter Evil. The parents were happy because they knew I didn't allow things to get out of hand, and it kept the children off balance because they didn't know what to expect.