Things at home have gotten worse with SS. SS has been stealing money from us, stealing from students/teachers at school and on the bus, conflicts with peers at school, bad grades (which is a first) and the list goes on. When I caught SS stealing MY money I told him and DH that the line had been crossed and next time I will press charges against SS. If DH will not do something then I will, even if its drastic. Sure enough, 3 days later we found stolen items in SS backpack (one week before Thanksgiving). DH beat me too it and took SS to the police station. SS was advised by the Deputy Sheriff that he will personally come to my home if SS steals again. This will include SS being handcuffed, thrown into the back of the cop car and his personal belongings will be searched. If stolen items are found SS will be taken away. Unfortunately as CRAZY as this might sound, its going to take an act of GOD to get through to this child.

On Thanksgiving SS informed me that he wants to be with his BM and her family because he wouldn't get in trouble all the time. I had to silently chuckle because this is a woman that beat him, starved him, killed his paralyzed sister and who hasn't tried to contact SS in 6+ years. He has created an imaginary "Real Mom" that doesn't exist. He informed me that I am evil and his does not like me. Again...I had to chuckle because for someone so evil I'm the one clothing him, feeding him, takes care of him financially, been there all the way since the beginning...BUT I'M EVIL. UGH! Like I told DH, my relationship with SS will never improve until he gets over his Mommy issues.

DH is finally realizing the serious of SS's issues. Me, DH, BS13 and SS were watching a documentary on the NY serial killer Joel Rifkin. The killer, profilers, police, psychiatrist and people involved in the case were describing this man's personality from childhood to adulthood, which fit my SS to a tee. So much so that the show even impacted my husband. DH at one point paused the show and asked SS "Is that going to be you? Are you going to be a Serial Killer like him? These people are describing you." Me and BS13 just sat there in shock because we never expected DH to ask his own son that question. But secretly BS and I were both thinking the same thing. DH and I advised SS tonight that he will be sent to a special place for children if that's what it takes to get him mentally better. SS has the personality of a sociopath...NOT JOKING! DH has SS seeing a psychiatrist the beginning of the year and we'll see how it goes. If we can get someone to dig into that fish-bowl he calls a brain, there might be hope.

My follow up comment to this was...."DH and SS, if something doesn't change by March 2012...I'm leaving with my BC and we can live in separate homes until either SS turns 18 or something worse (jail). DH doesn't want this at all but was understanding and doesn't blame me. Guess we'll see how it goes.